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"Our" money = leech! -update note-

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You women that say "our" money should be ashamed of yourself!

Your husband goes to work and makes money and then you dare dictate how he can use it? After the bills are paid why can't he use the leftover money for whatever he wants? If you want extra money you can just go get a job.

I was brought up to not take other people's things and yet women on here think it's okay to take your husband money when they haven't earned a penny of it!

There's a roof over your head, be happy you get to stay home instead of complaining that you don't get extra cash and he does!

Sooo many pages full of replies mostly from women who wouldn't have a leg to stand on if their spouse left them... And yet the likes keep on coming. I can't be crazy since people agree with me and the rest are leeches. Oh well!
by on Jul. 5, 2013 at 9:40 PM
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by on Jul. 5, 2013 at 9:51 PM
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if course I earn it. I do his laundry, cook his food, and manage the kids and the money.
When we married all property became ours. There is no my anf yours.
by Gold Member on Jul. 5, 2013 at 9:51 PM
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Get off your high horse, pull the stick out of your ass and beat the idiot out of yourself with it. I am the breadwinner in my house, my DF is a SAHD, and it is OUR money. So go fuck yourself.

by Anonymous 10 on Jul. 5, 2013 at 9:51 PM

It's his responsibility to take care of my needs and make sure I have what I need AND want within his budget.  

by on Jul. 5, 2013 at 9:51 PM
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He doesn't want my job.

by Desiree` on Jul. 5, 2013 at 9:51 PM
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 It's not our money, it's mine!  I dictate how we spend the money he makes!

by Anonymous 11 on Jul. 5, 2013 at 9:51 PM

Let me tell you something "lady".  I will speak of MY family and MY family only..........HOWEVER.........I live with a self employed guy that loves us, but can not manage money if he thought it would save his life.  Seriously.  *I* was brought up to take care of MY family.  I have MY kids and my husband can NOT manage money.  We are not divorcing because otherwise things are fine.  IF I didnt take over the extra cash (save it) we would be on the streets when he spends weeks at a time in the hospital.  IF he wants extra cash, he needs to start acting like a man and make sure the important things are covered first.  But of course we are in a MARRIAGE, maybe it works different in other relationships?

by on Jul. 5, 2013 at 9:51 PM
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I'll admit.... I have never understood that mind-set. However, I have always made my own money. So I've never been in that position.

I just assume that the couple has an agreement that they both are happy with.  And if they both aren't happy, then that's for them to figure out and live with. Not me.

by Emerald Member on Jul. 5, 2013 at 9:52 PM
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Thank you :)

Quoting NunyaBizzness:

youre entilted to that opinion.

by Anonymous 12 on Jul. 5, 2013 at 9:52 PM
Can't tell if serious or sarcastic...
by on Jul. 5, 2013 at 9:52 PM
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You have a very specific idea of what "marriage" is and it sounds like roommates who dont trust each other.  If that works for you...more power to you.  But I think it is your lack of understanding of what a true marriage is that causes you to be so harsh against those who DO trust their partner enough to join forces and join finances.

In my marriage....we are a team.  We work together and we share everything.  Money..responsibilities...worries...hopes...fears.  We negotiate...we discuss...we decide together what is best for us as a team.  And yes it is " our" money. There have been years I earned more...years he earned more...but it doesnt matter because it is all "ours".   It always has been and it always will be.  And that is why I have only been married once...25 years and counting.  

I am sorry you dont have the kind of trust in your partner to have that kind of relationship...but different strokes for different folks.

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