Ok, so back story. I'm not a huge fan of my SO's older brother. He's just not the type of person I would be around if given a choice. He's smelly, his teeth are rotting out of his skull and his character, to put it lightly, is questionable. About 2 years ago, he got pulled over while driving on a suspended license (which he still does) and tried to tell the cop that he was my SO. Turns out, the cop is a childhood buddy of my SO so knew it wasn't him. To this day, the brother denies he did it, but we trust SO's buddy more than we trust his brother.
4th comes around. SO's brother decides he wants to have a get together at his house to celebrate. Cool, but I was hesitant to go. They live in a very run-down trailer park, they have dogs that bark ALL THE TIME, the neighbors are loud and rude and they have no AC. It was 102 F here on the 4th and I'm now 7 days away from my due date, so uncomfortable to begin with. We decided that I would drive, that way if it all got to be too much, I could bow out and come back home. Also, my boys are with my ex husband for the week. The brother said something about not having the barbecue until later in the evening and only having so much food, so when my ex called to see if I wanted them (which I did desperately), I thought it would be best for them to go up with my ex to the fairgrounds and watch the fireworks instead of being around a bunch of weird people in a hot house and no food until about 9 pm. I hated it, but I thought my kids would have more fun that way.
Well, about AN HOUR before the party is supposed to start, the brother decided he wanted to just bring the food and come here, to OUR house, instead. Um, what? I hadn't cleaned much and I really liked the idea of having a way out, but noooo, my SO says, "Sure!" without even talking to me about it first! We had a pretty big fight about it actually. My SO asked for an extra hour to help me clean, brother got pissy about it but eventually agreed. Party time arrives and in walks the brother, his wife, her two kids and THREE OF THEIR F-ING FRIENDS!!! I was sooooo mad I just about cried! I could have had my kids come to see me since we were home (we live right next to the fairgrounds and can see the fireworks from our back porch) and if the brother can feed three of his kids' friends, why was it such a problem for MY KIDS to be there?
It was a fiasco. The brother was drunk and burnt the hell out of the food, I couldn't eat it and ended up throwing what little I ate up and made myself a salad. Then, didn't even think about it, but my purse was on the kitchen counter in the back. I always keep it there. That way I don't fricken lose it with these blasted pregnancy hormones making me stupid as hell. I had $28 in my wallet. Didn't even consider it, but I go today to get it so I can go to the store for stuff I needed for dinner and guess what? It's GONE! Nothing else is missing, just the money. I looked EVERYWHERE for it. Dumped my purse out, went through pants pockets, went through my wallet, my SO's wallet, nothing. It's gone. We had to go return some stuff that the brother left at our house when I finally had had enough and basically kicked everyone out (it was almost 1 am after all) and the 16 yr old is sitting there with his friend playing with his brand spanking new deck of Magic cards that, guess what? Cost about $25 to get. I looked at my SO, said, "Fix it." and went and sat in the car. I was sooooooo mad! I don't want any of them in my house again. I HATE being stolen from!!!!!
What would you do? Sorry for it being so long. We just got home and I'm so mad I'm still shaking.
So my SO went to pick up his thieving nephew this morning just as he'd told his brother he'd be doing. Guess what? Kid conveniently spent the night somewhere else last night. SO asked his brother, "Why would you let him go spend the night somewhere else when you knew I was coming to pick him up this morning?" Brother said, "Well, I think you're being too harsh on him." Um, he stole money out of my purse. In our house. Then he lied about it. No. We're not being too harsh to expect him to have consequences. I told my SO that if it isn't fixed by the time my boys get home tonight, I'm calling the cops. The brother still drives around with no license, no insurance on his vehicles and has drank and driven on more than one occasion. He doesn't come to our house anymore after drinking and driving because I told him I'd report him the next time I saw him do it. The brother thinks that he should just be able to pay us back and not make the kid work off the debt. What about the disrespect? Not making the kid deal with the consequences won't fix the problem. SO agrees now that his nephews won't be allowed in our house anymore. He's fed up, too. Ugg!
So the kid never came around. By 6:15, I'd made a call to the cops, saying that I'd been stolen from, made a report and they went over to the brother's house by 7. By 9, the brother was blowing up my SO's phone saying it was "f-ed up" that I'd actually called the cops. "Family doesn't do that, man." Um, family isn't supposed to steal from pregnant/expecting family, either dip sh*t. My SO agrees and basically said the same thing. I guess the kid has been given a ticket and I've been given the option to drop the charges should he make amends to me before the court date. I seriously doubt that will happen. Yeah, it's not over much, but the kid still stole and he has to deal with the consequences. Obviously his parents won't hold him accountable so someone has to. SO is a little miffed that I went ahead and called the cops, but supports me in doing what I feel is right. He's afraid it will cause a rift in his family that he doesn't really want. I told him his brother and his kid caused it when the kid stole from me and the brother did not hold him accountable. I firmly believe in following through with what I say I'm going to do. Integrity is a virtue that is quickly fading in today's society and I won't let mine be the next victim all to keep things calm among "family."