On "the spectrum" he just recently turned 4. He has never grown out if the separation anxiety phase, gets very very thrown off by anything out of our ordinary routines, has major issues sleeping, avoids eye contact often, has always repeated himself more than seems normal based on my other kids, he is very communicative with us but not much with others, very uncomfortable in around new people or crowds, has extreme meltdowns over things none of myoothers have, meticulous, does have some rituals of sorts, and some definite sensory issues. I don't want anyone to know, I don't want him labeled! He is incredibly smart, actually of my 5 he seem the most intelligent (at this age) but I don't want him labeled. He loves other kids once he gets to know them but sometimes they don't like him, he's very imaginative- it seems kids his age find him a bit weird sometimes but then others don't. He is registered for pre k but I'm seriously considering keeping him out another year and doing some homeschooling to see how he does then reevaluate his social skills next year to decide on sending him to public school or just homeschooling him. My greatest fear is he will have the anxiety and meltdowns in school and be miserable, or they will want to medicate or separate him. Anyone have advise?