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I'm pregnant and am having somewhat of a difficult pregnancy, last night i was having pain and pressure and my dh comes into the room and asks if we could have sex, i told him do you really want to chance it? so he gets up, shuts the door and when i get up a little later he is watching porn, now i know that porn isn't really a big deal but i got hurt and pissed and was like shouldn't you be concerned about how i'm feeling instead of watching porn? should i be mad or just be like whatever?

by on Jul. 8, 2013 at 9:40 AM
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chunkyhoney78
by Silver Member on Jul. 8, 2013 at 9:50 AM
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I would have been pissed off. I get what your saying. sorry mama hope you feel better and get lots of rest!

momto2crazykids
by Silver Member on Jul. 8, 2013 at 9:50 AM

 lol i'm not allowed to masterbate, once i shut the door and locked it and he got so pissed accusing me of masturbating so he isn't really being fair


Quoting Anonymous:

i think id be upset but at the same time would he be mad if he was sick or something and you went and used a vibrator?... it doesnt mean he doesnt care. maybe he didnt know how much pain you were in.


 

ajdahd13
by on Jul. 8, 2013 at 9:50 AM
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I'm not Anon, but I missed the part where you were dying...... You're pregnant, not dying of the Plauge. And he went to jack off, not to go get a prosititute. Let him have his 10 minutes. 

Quoting momto2crazykids:

 are you really saying that getting off was more important than me and the baby?


Quoting Anonymous:

No reason to be mad. He needed to get off.




CV3
by Silver Member on Jul. 8, 2013 at 9:50 AM
He was horny. What else could he do? Is he not supposed to get off just cause your sick?
The only thing I see wrong is if he just stalked out of the room. I would imagine he asked if you were ok and needed anything first.
momto2crazykids
by Silver Member on Jul. 8, 2013 at 9:51 AM

 you have a awesome husband :)


Quoting Anonymous:

Porn along with sex would be the last things on my husbands mind.


 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Jul. 8, 2013 at 9:51 AM
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So his needs get swept under the carpet? He was just watching porn. Not having an affair

Quoting Anonymous:

Her needs take priority. I'm so glad my husband put mine and our child's needs above his own.



Quoting Anonymous:He has needs also



Quoting momto2crazykids: i've had two bleeds during my pregnancy along with cysts, he knew i was in pain because i told him when he was trying to get some sex, i'm hurt because he should have been concerned for me and the unborn baby not his needs



Quoting MaNdYbEaR2010:Did he know you we're in pain? Are you in pain often?It really depends. If your norm is in pain, I can see why he'd kind of shrug it off. Man has needs and the pain thing is nothing new. Same if he didn't realize you were in pain.Now if he knew and its a rare occurrence, yes, I'd be upset.



 
Sister.Menses
by Silver Member on Jul. 8, 2013 at 9:52 AM
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Yeah. Id be pissed. I just don't like porn though. But remember, you're pregnant and emotional. Just let it go at this point.
CV3
by Silver Member on Jul. 8, 2013 at 9:52 AM
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Your not Allowed to masturbate? Why are you married to this guy? That changes the whole story.


Quoting momto2crazykids:

 lol i'm not allowed to masterbate, once i shut the door and locked it and he got so pissed accusing me of masturbating so he isn't really being fair




Quoting Anonymous:


i think id be upset but at the same time would he be mad if he was sick or something and you went and used a vibrator?... it doesnt mean he doesnt care. maybe he didnt know how much pain you were in.




 


momto2crazykids
by Silver Member on Jul. 8, 2013 at 9:53 AM
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 i didin't say i was dying but with two major bleeds cramping in my book means trouble and he should be wise enough to know that


Quoting ajdahd13:

I'm not Anon, but I missed the part where you were dying...... You're pregnant, not dying of the Plauge. And he went to jack off, not to go get a prosititute. Let him have his 10 minutes. 

Quoting momto2crazykids:

 are you really saying that getting off was more important than me and the baby?

 

Quoting Anonymous:

No reason to be mad. He needed to get off.

 

 



 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jul. 8, 2013 at 9:54 AM
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No, but it isn't like you were actively dying and he chose to wank it over driving you to the hospital. Would you be mad if he chose to eat while you were in pain bc he was hungry?

I don't understand why getting off is a big deal...I have a high libido and I get off 2 or 3 times a day, only once with my partner. My partner knows. I like to think he appreciates me taking care of myself altogether on days he doesn't feel well, and that way he doesn't have to feel bad about turning me down.

If it's just life/pregnancy as normal, getting mad at him for masturbating is like getting pissed that he had the gall to scratch an itch. Seriously. That's what it's comparable to. An itch that won't go away.


Quoting momto2crazykids:

 are you really saying that getting off was more important than me and the baby?




Quoting Anonymous:

No reason to be mad. He needed to get off.



 


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