If he has nothing to hide then why is he deleting it? update on page 3
Let me start of by saying yes, I have been snooping on dh. I accidentally came across a conversation a few months ago that seemed off to me so I've been checking in on him from time to time. I don't really think he is cheating per say but the conversation was inappropriate. Shortly after I found it, he deleted it. Which made me wonder what other things he has deleted. Since then there have been two other women (one he currently works with and another he no longer does but keeps in contact with) that he has been chatting "inappropriately" with on fb in addition to the orginal woman.
The one he currently works with is an older woman. She's in her late 40s maybe early 50s and dh is in his mid-30s. She isn't a very attractive lady but she seems nice. Conversation between the two have been popping up through e-mail and fb a lot. Nothing really raunchy but definitely odd. Like Saturday they were talking about how it's no good when there is a lack of sex and were very flirty. She also sends him winks and comments like "I've heard how you are", "your wife is such a lucky girl", "you're so awesome, i'm glad we are friends". No real indication there is anything going on between the two but the thing is he always deletes the messages shortly after like he is hiding something.
I also noticed that dh has been searching things on FB like MILFS, older women dating younger men, and crap like that. It all makes me wonder what the heck is going on and what his intentions are. He's also accused me of "talking to other people" in the past which I have never done. All of it just seems fishy and makes me think he feels what he is doing is wrong and trying to hide it. It's not really cheating I guess, physically anyways, but it bugs me. Idk, what would you do? Should I confront him?
I've been talking to him on facebook today and am still trying to figure out exactly what to say when I confront him later today. I guess he could sense my distance and he actually had the gall to ask if I was talking to anyone else. *eyeroll* I told him I can guarantee I am not talking to anyone else and he responded me too. :/ Maybe my first step should be asking him to define talking to anyone else and what HE finds appropriate or not. He also said some bullcrap like "the worse has been done to me already, but not by you." Oh yeah like maybe what you are doing right now?