Can anyone help make me feel better by giving me words of wisdom on how better it is just to be a mother and loving gf without the necessity of marriage? My bf wants to marry me but I'm having a change of heart. I've drawn up power of attorney papers for healthcare cause that's all that really matters to me is us having says for each other in case of an emergency. He told me it would be so much easier if we were married. I didn't respond. He's been married before and I never was. On our second date which was 2 years ago(that's how long we've been together) he told me he didn't want to get married anymore. The only thing he wanted to change for me was my address. Now after a few months down the line and around the time we planned to have a baby, he changed his mind. Not because I w3as pregnant but because his love for me became much more stronger. But I still have the thought in my mind of his descision in the beginning of not wanting marriage. I'm not a vindictive person like his exes, wanted money out of him/cheated. I have a son from my ex and I'm too accustomed to being a single mom. I once did wanted marriage but when I think about it, all that matters (to me) is that we can make desicions for each other in case of a medical emergency. My dad's a JW(Jehovahs witness) and if something bad were to happen to me(before kids are 18) he's my next of kin(mom's passed). Blood transfusion, my dad would let me die cause he doesn't go for that.
Anyhoo, just a little sad but if someone could tell me marriage isn't all that, pros of staying legally single(no cons please) then I'll be happy. Btw the kids are protected on my life and medical insurance.