I have 2 daughters a 16 year old and a 19 year old. The 19 year old has been living with us while she goes to college. It hasnt been easy with her since she turned 18. It is almost a weekly struggle with her because she keeps wanting her boyfriend to spend the night. I tell her no it is against our rules and also it is not good for her younger sister. My 16 year old has even asked if she could have her bf spend the night. It has just been causing problems
Well on sunday morning I was up really early (about 4 am) and I could not get to sleep. I was watching tv on the couch and trying to get back to sleep when all of a sudden my 19* year olds bf walks out of her room. He was sneaking out!
I ran in my daughters room and woke her up and asked wtf was going on. She told me she had snuck him in a few times and that she was an adult and was able to make her own decisions. So I told her she was right she WAS an adult and it was time for her to move out of my house. She thought I was joking. I got some trashbags, brought them to her room, and told her she needed to be out before he dad wakes up.
Many people will think "what is the big deal?" I dont care if she has a boyfriend he is actually a sweet guy but it is our rule that there will be no bfs spending the night in our house. She has caused constant problems with us about it. She fights us every single weekend about it. Her little sister thinks it is perfectly okay to have boys spend the night and is even asking if her bf could do it.
When she turned 18 and decided to still live with us we set up the rules. We had a contract of what we were responsible for and what she was responsible for and the rules that needed to be followed. She signed it and agreed to follow them so I kicked her out. If she had followed the rules she could have stayed as long as she wanted. I feel a little bad but not at the same time. She has a job and can afford an apartment. She has even been looking into getting one. Her father was pissed off when he found out and her bf was lucky he wasnt around because my DH would have had very strong words with him.
I thought I would update this: We went apartment hunting last night and DD found one she really likes. She filled out an application and because she has good credit they told her that she should have no issue getting it. Hopefully in the next couple hours we will get the phone call and after she is done signing the paperwork DH and I will help her move her things over and settle in.
Update2: My dd got the apartment. We packed up her bed, dresser, and all the other big stuff and got them unloaded at her new place. It really is cute. It is a one bedroom with an "office". She is still getting settled in.