She sought out a "not very attractive" guy to marry EDIT
Yep. My coworker intentionally sought out a guy who wasn't extremely attractive. She admits she never dated very attractive men even if they were very nice guys. Why? She intended to marry a man that she'd never have to feel like other women were looking at. It was her "insurance" that she wouldn't have to feel intimidated.
Now, here's my question. How would you feel if you found out your dh married you because you weren't very attractive so he wouldn't have to feel intimidated?
(Me personally, I think my dh is extremely handsome and there are ladies who check him out and occasionally flirt with him, but it doesn't bother me. It's a compliment, IMO, because I got such a desirable guy...and he's brilliant, hard working, and hilarious too! I think you should marry whoever makes you happy and they will be sexy to you whether they are to anyone else or not.)
Tiny Edit: She also says that she has no guilt about being a bit bossy to him or about not paying much attention to her own attractiveness because she did some digging into his dating history and discovered she is the least bossy woman he'd dated and also the thinnest (apparently he's always dated fat, bossy ladies. LOL). That was another reason she chose him. Being equally attractive wouldn't require any effort and her bossy nature would seem mild compared to his exes.