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UPDATE: UPDATE !!!!!!My husband will not let me circumsize my son.....we are really having it out over this

Anonymous
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UPDATE: We went to pedi and I did some research and we both decided that it would not be done. Why? Well, Not because so many people on here were rude (by the way thanks to those who had cosntructive views and understood my issues) but because he does feel strongly about it and he does understand the Penis more than I do plus my pedi said that either way is okay and that there is really no reason to do it if you do not want to. All I wanted was to be heard and for this to be a both parent decision and for us to make this decision together since we made this child together. So its not happening and i am okay with that. But we were both heard.


My husband and I are about to have out first son in 3 weeks. We have 2 dd so it has never came up. He is Australian and his excuse for it is that he wasnt and none of his brothers were and neither was his dad. He also said that it was not done in his country or by his family so I should respect his wishes because it is his son.  Well, its my son too and we live in the United States and it is done on a regular bases here. I am sorry but I just feel it would be unsanitary for us not to circumsize him. I also do not think its fair he has made this decision and i have to live with it and his whole argument is it is his son. I am thinking about just having them do it while he is gone. I mean he will not be with me at the hospital 24/7 and once its gone....well oh well, he cant glue it back on. I really honestly would not do that but it serves him right if I did.


Let me reinstate the main  reason I am upset is he acts like I have no say what so ever. My husband is not unsanitary bit its a lot harder to keep clean and he even admits that.


EDIT: Wow I guess i was wrong to think anyone on here would understand that it is just a bit hurtful that he thinks I have no say so what so ever it what is done to my son and thats why i would be upset.  Just so you know I would not do it behind his back and even stated I would not in my post.

UPDATE: MY husband and I talked it through he did not realize my main problem was how he would not even talk about it. We are going to meet with our pedi today and talk about it.  I doubt we will do it but at least we will talk it through. that is what i wanted.

Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:16 PM
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UxorQuodMatris.
by Ruby Member on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:19 PM
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I'm on your husband's side.

You think it's unsanitary, yet you sleep with an intact man...makes perfect sense.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:20 PM
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Until he signs the birth certificate, you can do whatever the hell you want.  But...I wouldn't break up my family over foreskin. Just let him have his way.  You just have to understand how to keep the penis clean, and seeing as the dad is uncirc'ed, he's probably an expert!

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:20 PM


A lot of my problem is that his only reason for not doing it is that its his son but yet I have no say and I carried him for 9 months.

Quoting UxorQuodMatris.:

I'm on your husband's side.

You think it's unsanitary, yet you sleep with an intact man...makes perfect sense.



Anonandon
by on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:20 PM
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So your husband is unsanitary? 

Aslen
by Ruby Member on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:21 PM
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Well, your husband HAS his foreskin, as do you.

Is your HUSBAND unsanitary? If he is, why are you having sex with him?


Fallaya
by on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:21 PM

You have just as much say as he does.


Quoting Anonymous:


A lot of my problem is that his only reason for not doing it is that its his son but yet I have no say and I carried him for 9 months.

Quoting UxorQuodMatris.:

I'm on your husband's side.

You think it's unsanitary, yet you sleep with an intact man...makes perfect sense.





"What you do speaks so loud that I cannot hear what you say" Ralph Waldo Emerson
Sassy762
by CAFE SASSY HBIC on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:21 PM
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I personally had my boys circumcised

SOOOO I guess it is your decision since you are the one that has carried the child for 40 weeks and will go through labor and delivery. Good Luck with whatever decision you make

This post will probably blow up and not be a pretty sight in a few hours, lol

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:21 PM


This is true. Like i said I would not really do it. It just makes me angry that he is thinks its  boy I have no say.

Quoting Anonymous:

Until he signs the birth certificate, you can do whatever the hell you want.  But...I wouldn't break up my family over foreskin. Just let him have his way.  You just have to understand how to keep the penis clean, and seeing as the dad is uncirc'ed, he's probably an expert!



angelachristine
by Platinum Member on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:21 PM
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Agree completely. My ds is 5 and we have had no problems. You are really low if you do this behind your dh back.


Quoting UxorQuodMatris.:I'm on your husband's side.

You think it's unsanitary, yet you sleep with an intact man...makes perfect sense.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:22 PM
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You have every right to have your wishes honored as much as he does. If you want it done, he should be willing to look at your point of view, instead of steamrolling over you, and doing what he wants.

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