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UPDATE: UPDATE !!!!!!My husband will not let me circumsize my son.....we are really having it out over this

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UPDATE: We went to pedi and I did some research and we both decided that it would not be done. Why? Well, Not because so many people on here were rude (by the way thanks to those who had cosntructive views and understood my issues) but because he does feel strongly about it and he does understand the Penis more than I do plus my pedi said that either way is okay and that there is really no reason to do it if you do not want to. All I wanted was to be heard and for this to be a both parent decision and for us to make this decision together since we made this child together. So its not happening and i am okay with that. But we were both heard.


My husband and I are about to have out first son in 3 weeks. We have 2 dd so it has never came up. He is Australian and his excuse for it is that he wasnt and none of his brothers were and neither was his dad. He also said that it was not done in his country or by his family so I should respect his wishes because it is his son.  Well, its my son too and we live in the United States and it is done on a regular bases here. I am sorry but I just feel it would be unsanitary for us not to circumsize him. I also do not think its fair he has made this decision and i have to live with it and his whole argument is it is his son. I am thinking about just having them do it while he is gone. I mean he will not be with me at the hospital 24/7 and once its gone....well oh well, he cant glue it back on. I really honestly would not do that but it serves him right if I did.


Let me reinstate the main  reason I am upset is he acts like I have no say what so ever. My husband is not unsanitary bit its a lot harder to keep clean and he even admits that.


EDIT: Wow I guess i was wrong to think anyone on here would understand that it is just a bit hurtful that he thinks I have no say so what so ever it what is done to my son and thats why i would be upset.  Just so you know I would not do it behind his back and even stated I would not in my post.

UPDATE: MY husband and I talked it through he did not realize my main problem was how he would not even talk about it. We are going to meet with our pedi today and talk about it.  I doubt we will do it but at least we will talk it through. that is what i wanted.

Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:16 PM
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UxorQuodMatris.
by Ruby Member on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:22 PM
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Don't do it just to spite your husband.

Why not just leave the decision up to your son? After all it's what he'll have to live with, not you.


Quoting Anonymous:


A lot of my problem is that his only reason for not doing it is that its his son but yet I have no say and I carried him for 9 months.


Quoting UxorQuodMatris.:

I'm on your husband's side.



You think it's unsanitary, yet you sleep with an intact man...makes perfect sense.




Aslen
by Ruby Member on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:22 PM
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Also, the rates of circumcision are going WAY DOWN. Your son won't be the only intact boy around.

Lord if you had so many issue with the natural penis, why in the hell did you marry a man from a country that doens't routinely circumcise??

MommaTasha1003
by Silver Member on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:22 PM
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Im with your husband.. Let your son have his whole penis..

Its sad your DH has to fight you so his son doesnt have to have his penis cut on.. How do you think it makes your DH feel knowing you feel this way!?!

bex55
by on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:22 PM
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Smart man.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:22 PM
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My question exactly... Why are you having sex with him if he is dirty or unsanitary??

Quoting Anonandon:

So your husband is unsanitary? 

Aslen
by Ruby Member on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:23 PM
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Because he knows what he's talking about.

And if you Do do it when he's not there, I hope he gets custody in the divorce. And there WILL be a divorce

Quoting Anonymous:


A lot of my problem is that his only reason for not doing it is that its his son but yet I have no say and I carried him for 9 months.

Quoting UxorQuodMatris.:

I'm on your husband's side.

You think it's unsanitary, yet you sleep with an intact man...makes perfect sense.





autodidact
by Snarknado on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:24 PM

basis, not bases. 

and why not wait and let it be your son's choice? 

it's done about half the time now. 

fewer than 12 million of nearly 20 million newborn boys were circumcised over the past decade. The survey showed that the rate of in-hospital circumcisions dropped from 62.5% in 1999 to 56.9% in 2008.

Read more: http://healthland.time.com/2011/09/02/cdc-why-are-u-s-circumcision-rates-declining/#ixzz2YbbKpQz5

Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:24 PM
How would it be unsanitary to leave your son intact?
LoveMyKBabies
by on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:24 PM
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I let my husband decide for OUR sons, because he's the parent with a penis.
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KGreen75
by on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:24 PM
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I'm kn your husband's side. There's no reason to mutilate your son's penis. It is done in the US for superficial reasons.
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