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UPDATE: UPDATE !!!!!!My husband will not let me circumsize my son.....we are really having it out over this

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UPDATE: We went to pedi and I did some research and we both decided that it would not be done. Why? Well, Not because so many people on here were rude (by the way thanks to those who had cosntructive views and understood my issues) but because he does feel strongly about it and he does understand the Penis more than I do plus my pedi said that either way is okay and that there is really no reason to do it if you do not want to. All I wanted was to be heard and for this to be a both parent decision and for us to make this decision together since we made this child together. So its not happening and i am okay with that. But we were both heard.


My husband and I are about to have out first son in 3 weeks. We have 2 dd so it has never came up. He is Australian and his excuse for it is that he wasnt and none of his brothers were and neither was his dad. He also said that it was not done in his country or by his family so I should respect his wishes because it is his son.  Well, its my son too and we live in the United States and it is done on a regular bases here. I am sorry but I just feel it would be unsanitary for us not to circumsize him. I also do not think its fair he has made this decision and i have to live with it and his whole argument is it is his son. I am thinking about just having them do it while he is gone. I mean he will not be with me at the hospital 24/7 and once its gone....well oh well, he cant glue it back on. I really honestly would not do that but it serves him right if I did.


Let me reinstate the main  reason I am upset is he acts like I have no say what so ever. My husband is not unsanitary bit its a lot harder to keep clean and he even admits that.


EDIT: Wow I guess i was wrong to think anyone on here would understand that it is just a bit hurtful that he thinks I have no say so what so ever it what is done to my son and thats why i would be upset.  Just so you know I would not do it behind his back and even stated I would not in my post.

UPDATE: MY husband and I talked it through he did not realize my main problem was how he would not even talk about it. We are going to meet with our pedi today and talk about it.  I doubt we will do it but at least we will talk it through. that is what i wanted.

Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:16 PM
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wolfybaby
by Silver Member on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:24 PM
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do you think your husband is unsanitary? do you think his penis is disgusting and dirty? probably not, because he most likely bathes regularly like a normal american. be like an american: bathe, dont circumcise. 

also, you dont "have to live with" not circumcising your son. your son will have to live with you circumcising him. it is not your choice or your husbands choice to circumcise him or to not circumcise him. it is your sons choice when he becomes a consenting man.

seriously, if your husband has a foreskin, he should be proof to you that an intact man is not unsanitary. you sound like a troll the way you speak so poorly about foreskins, yet admit that your own husband-who you have had a llloot of sex with to get 3 kids-has one. hypocrite?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:25 PM

Its not about that. Its about the fact he thinks I have no say.


Quoting Aslen:

Also, the rates of circumcision are going WAY DOWN. Your son won't be the only intact boy around.

Lord if you had so many issue with the natural penis, why in the hell did you marry a man from a country that doens't routinely circumcise??



notjstanothrmom
by Ruby Member on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:25 PM
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I don't think parents should have the right to cut off their sons foreskins without clear medical need.

Your husband must be gross then if you think he's unsanitary and you must not understand that the foreskin functions to clean the penis and keep it sanitary just like a vagina works to clean itself.

sdsstargazer
by Gold Member on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:26 PM
I don't think you should do it while he is not present...that could cause huge issues and resentment. My dh signed the paperwork for our son to have his circumcision done while I was showering and I was beyond ticked since I didn't want it done. It almost cost our marriage. And yes, in Texas, either parent can sign if the parents are married. I think you two should maybe sit with a doctor and make a lost of the pros and cons and make an educated decision from there. I wish you two luck.
jamamama00
by Platinum Member on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:26 PM
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You sound really uneducated. I don't blame him for putting his foot down. And the rate in the US now is around fifty percent and dropping quickly. Many hospitals aren't even doing them anymore because of the risk of infection.
ZazaGoszzy
by on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:26 PM

Me and Dh never really got into it with Ds' foreskin. We kept him in tact simply because DH is in tact.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:26 PM
Then you need to think about divorce because your marriage has MUCH deepwr issues.

Quoting Anonymous:

Its not about that. Its about the fact he thinks I have no say.



Quoting Aslen:

Also, the rates of circumcision are going WAY DOWN. Your son won't be the only intact boy around.

Lord if you had so many issue with the natural penis, why in the hell did you marry a man from a country that doens't routinely circumcise??




wolfybaby
by Silver Member on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:26 PM
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no, that is not your husbands only reason. men do not speak well. his reason [which is so freaking obvious you should have never given *not circumcising* your son a second thought] is the living proof that a man with a foreskin can be perfectly sanitary and clean. 

Quoting Anonymous:


A lot of my problem is that his only reason for not doing it is that its his son but yet I have no say and I carried him for 9 months.

Quoting UxorQuodMatris.:

I'm on your husband's side.

You think it's unsanitary, yet you sleep with an intact man...makes perfect sense.




Aslen
by Ruby Member on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:27 PM

Well, you think your husband's penis in unsanitary! I wouldn't let you have a say either!


Quoting Anonymous:

Its not about that. Its about the fact he thinks I have no say.


Quoting Aslen:

Also, the rates of circumcision are going WAY DOWN. Your son won't be the only intact boy around.

Lord if you had so many issue with the natural penis, why in the hell did you marry a man from a country that doens't routinely circumcise??





Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:27 PM

I think circumcision is sad.  And I think the baby boy should be left intact like his dad is.

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