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UPDATE: UPDATE !!!!!!My husband will not let me circumsize my son.....we are really having it out over this

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UPDATE: We went to pedi and I did some research and we both decided that it would not be done. Why? Well, Not because so many people on here were rude (by the way thanks to those who had cosntructive views and understood my issues) but because he does feel strongly about it and he does understand the Penis more than I do plus my pedi said that either way is okay and that there is really no reason to do it if you do not want to. All I wanted was to be heard and for this to be a both parent decision and for us to make this decision together since we made this child together. So its not happening and i am okay with that. But we were both heard.


My husband and I are about to have out first son in 3 weeks. We have 2 dd so it has never came up. He is Australian and his excuse for it is that he wasnt and none of his brothers were and neither was his dad. He also said that it was not done in his country or by his family so I should respect his wishes because it is his son.  Well, its my son too and we live in the United States and it is done on a regular bases here. I am sorry but I just feel it would be unsanitary for us not to circumsize him. I also do not think its fair he has made this decision and i have to live with it and his whole argument is it is his son. I am thinking about just having them do it while he is gone. I mean he will not be with me at the hospital 24/7 and once its gone....well oh well, he cant glue it back on. I really honestly would not do that but it serves him right if I did.


Let me reinstate the main  reason I am upset is he acts like I have no say what so ever. My husband is not unsanitary bit its a lot harder to keep clean and he even admits that.


EDIT: Wow I guess i was wrong to think anyone on here would understand that it is just a bit hurtful that he thinks I have no say so what so ever it what is done to my son and thats why i would be upset.  Just so you know I would not do it behind his back and even stated I would not in my post.

UPDATE: MY husband and I talked it through he did not realize my main problem was how he would not even talk about it. We are going to meet with our pedi today and talk about it.  I doubt we will do it but at least we will talk it through. that is what i wanted.

Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 9, 2013 at 10:16 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 15, 2013 at 4:00 PM

I trust my doctor or i would not have him for my 2 DD. But thanks for your concern.


Quoting tuplamama:

 

Quoting Anonymous:

Lady, you are really late to the party. If you had read my update, me and my husband had a discussion with my Pedi and have decided not to do it. A few days ago actually.


I was answering in general - there are unfortenately many mothers on Cafemom who allow the cut to their child. Ido hope you get intact friendly doctor - way too many doctors and nurses are uneducated about the proper care of intact penis and try forcefully retract - even when parents are there and tell them no.

 

 



Sister_Someone
by Rachel on Jul. 31, 2013 at 9:03 AM

I think you have every right to be listened to and have your wishes honored, just as much as he does.

Personally, I'd tell him I'd be happy leaving OUR son intact as long as he commits to keeping it clean and teaching your son to clean himself when he's old enough. I would not have absolutely anything to do with that, and if he tried to object to such an arrangement, I'd tell him that, well, that's one of the reasons I wanted our son circumcised him in the first place, but since it didn't happen because of his wishes, he's free to go eat the soup he stirred or I will call the doctor to schedule the circumcision right away.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 31, 2013 at 5:39 PM

Quoting Sister_Someone:

I think you have every right to be listened to and have your wishes honored, just as much as he does.

Personally, I'd tell him I'd be happy leaving OUR son intact as long as he commits to keeping it clean and teaching your son to clean himself when he's old enough. I would not have absolutely anything to do with that, and if he tried to object to such an arrangement, I'd tell him that, well, that's one of the reasons I wanted our son circumcised him in the first place, but since it didn't happen because of his wishes, he's free to go eat the soup he stirred or I will call the doctor to schedule the circumcision right away.


My son was born a couple of days ago and he is not circumcised, My husband helps a lot with the cleaning.
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