A few days ago I posted about a dilemma my Bf and I were having about him visiting his father and helping out with the family buisness. I would share the post but for some reason it was deleted, not actually sure why. Anyways. Most of you said I was being selfish. Bf decided to tell his father he could only go for the 6 days we had agreed upon.
His father replied "forget it" and that was it. Bf was upset and while I overheard him talking ot his brother I realized that he would be missing out on seeing his brothers because of the issues I have with his father. I told him that he could go for the entire time his father wanted because it wasnt fair that he shouldnt be able to visit his brothers because his father is unkind about our relationship.
Well he then emails his father back and says he can go for the whole time, but he didnt appreciate his fathers rude manner in stating it. The father doesnt write back for a few days, his initial response was immediate..like fifteen minutes tops.
Well the younger brother informed me today that the father just wanted Bf up there so he could talk him into staying there and leaving me. He also sent Bf a brand new chromebook (computer) for no reason! The younger brother informed me that his dad had done it to guilt his son.
Bf is pretty upset with his dad right now. I knew he was trying to manipulate his son. Ugh I can not stand that man.
I was wrong in being selfish, I am glad I realized it. In the end, his father emailed saying he wasn't going to need him to come help after all. We are just going to plan a trip up there in the next month to visit his brothers, the real reason he wanted to go. They are not as unkind about us. Actually the youngest brother and I are pretty good friends.