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I feel sorry for my neice....Vent

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My neice just turned 2. She is up right this minute watching tv, playing, & walking around the house. My sister & her husband(father) is passed out on the couch. They live 4 hrs from me, they had some business to take care of here in the morning. But my sister has no idea she's up or even me being up. I woke her up and told her she was running down the hallways @3 am. She said "she does this every night, but at home I just close her door & she can play or go to sleep or whatever." Like seriously? I wanted to punch her. 3-4 months ago my niece's arm almost got cut off cuz they were not paying attention to her. They had a huge 20lbs glass car bank in thier room and she was climbing into the pack n play well she fell and landed ontop of it on her chest. It shatter and sliced her arm all the to the bone from the top of her shoulder to her elbow. She was flown to another hospital. It just pisses me off that she does not pay more attention to her kids, she has 2 boys 4 & 6 also. They're with their real dad in another city. I have to be up @ 5 to get my 2 kids up & off to daycare, I have yet to go to sleep. I don't work but I have things to do and cannot sleep all day either. I can not tell her anything cuz she tries to flip shit around & we'll get into a heated arguement and I'll probably hit her for being so damn stupid and irresponsible........ & of course my mom takes her side so she's no help..
Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 12, 2013 at 5:03 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jul. 12, 2013 at 5:19 AM

why do you "have" to put them into daycare???  and having to get up at 5am??  that is really early, those poor things should still be in their beds asleep.  I can understand if you have to work, but you say your not,  what is the reason????

ineedcoffeemom
by Bronze Member on Jul. 12, 2013 at 5:20 AM
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I would be venting in a letter to cps right now. My 2 year old daughter is awake right now and hey, guess what, so am I. I do know that some people keep their kids in cribs for as long as possible or use a pack and play so that if their child wakes up and is ok to sit and play by themselves in the safe, contained environment, then fine. But being left to roam a whole house by herself, especially one that she doesn't even live in is not ok. You need to make it clear to your sister that she has to either take responsibility for her child or you'll take the appropriate action.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jul. 12, 2013 at 5:21 AM
well you are criticizing her parenting, but you're doing it out of concern for your nieces safety. I say you should try to talk to her again, bring to her attention the dangers that her daughter is in, and that waiting until something serious happens before she makes changes is not the way to go!

Quoting Anonymous:

I'm in a situation were I have no choice but to put my kids in daycare. But I can not say anything to her. I have before and it turned into a huge arguement that left us not speaking for 7 months. Still don't actually talk. I've tried being nice she thinks I'm criticizing her parenting....



Quoting Anonymous:

so you don't work but put your kids in day care?





rather than ragging on her out of anger, maybe you should just have a sit down heart to heart with her and express your concerns in a non -aggressive fashion?
Candie1015
by on Jul. 12, 2013 at 5:22 AM
O no I got that part honestly I meant worse then that. There isn't much that could be worse then that physically hirt wise but maybe if (please don't get mad just my opinion) her daughter was taken and handed to family like yourself it would make a diffrence??? If not then obviously she really just doesn't want to be a mom.


Quoting Anonymous:

My neice almost had her arm cut off while they was awake & not watching her. They know she runs around at night. They shut her in her room at home so she's not running around the house. Here is a open floorplan & my sister is on the couch.



Quoting Candie1015:

The only way she is going to change is if she sees exactly how bad things are at night. Record her running around at night if you have a recorder....other than that the only thing I can think of and I hate to say this but something really bad is going to have to happen for her to wake up and see jow dangerouse it is

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jul. 12, 2013 at 5:23 AM
It's worth the argument. You could potentially be saving the kids life. She may not listen but she will hear you. And some of it may sink in. If not, you did your part.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jul. 12, 2013 at 5:28 AM
I'll talk to her again when she gets up and I will let you know what she says. We both avoid trying to "talk" to each other about how we raise our children cuz we do it totally different.

Quoting Anonymous:

well you are criticizing her parenting, but you're doing it out of concern for your nieces safety. I say you should try to talk to her again, bring to her attention the dangers that her daughter is in, and that waiting until something serious happens before she makes changes is not the way to go!



Quoting Anonymous:

I'm in a situation were I have no choice but to put my kids in daycare. But I can not say anything to her. I have before and it turned into a huge arguement that left us not speaking for 7 months. Still don't actually talk. I've tried being nice she thinks I'm criticizing her parenting....





Quoting Anonymous:

so you don't work but put your kids in day care?







rather than ragging on her out of anger, maybe you should just have a sit down heart to heart with her and express your concerns in a non -aggressive fashion?
Candie1015
by on Jul. 12, 2013 at 5:32 AM
Well maybe next time yoi fo to cps bring prof of the danger she is in. Idk any cps worker that is gonna come out at night and that is when she is in danger. So if you have a video camera or a recorder you can plave somewhere without them knowing I would go for it. It wouldn't hurt to try and get records from the hospital either or atleast remember tje date and what hospital and cps will do the rest. She wont be taken away forever they give parents a chance to get their kids back but it will take time
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jul. 12, 2013 at 5:33 AM
I.think.there is a big difference between a difference in child rearing, and the dangers she's putting her toddler in to.

I.hope she listens! even if she gets angry and defensive, keep.your cool. your words still might sink.in.

with three kids maybe she's.just overwhelmed and doesn't know how to.gain control over her children.?

Quoting Anonymous:

I'll talk to her again when she gets up and I will let you know what she says. We both avoid trying to "talk" to each other about how we raise our children cuz we do it totally different.



Quoting Anonymous:

well you are criticizing her parenting, but you're doing it out of concern for your nieces safety. I say you should try to talk to her again, bring to her attention the dangers that her daughter is in, and that waiting until something serious happens before she makes changes is not the way to go!





Quoting Anonymous:

I'm in a situation were I have no choice but to put my kids in daycare. But I can not say anything to her. I have before and it turned into a huge arguement that left us not speaking for 7 months. Still don't actually talk. I've tried being nice she thinks I'm criticizing her parenting....







Quoting Anonymous:

so you don't work but put your kids in day care?









rather than ragging on her out of anger, maybe you should just have a sit down heart to heart with her and express your concerns in a non -aggressive fashion?
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jul. 12, 2013 at 5:33 AM
And doesn't go to sleep at night cause she has things to do? Odd.

Quoting Anonymous:

so you don't work but put your kids in day care?



rather than ragging on her out of anger, maybe you should just have a sit down heart to heart with her and express your concerns in a non -aggressive fashion?
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jul. 12, 2013 at 5:36 AM
I've talk to dhr about it and they would not do anything. They did a home visit and said everything was fine. 2 weeks later she moved 4 hrs away from me.

Quoting Candie1015:

O no I got that part honestly I meant worse then that. There isn't much that could be worse then that physically hirt wise but maybe if (please don't get mad just my opinion) her daughter was taken and handed to family like yourself it would make a diffrence??? If not then obviously she really just doesn't want to be a mom.




Quoting Anonymous:

My neice almost had her arm cut off while they was awake & not watching her. They know she runs around at night. They shut her in her room at home so she's not running around the house. Here is a open floorplan & my sister is on the couch.





Quoting Candie1015:

The only way she is going to change is if she sees exactly how bad things are at night. Record her running around at night if you have a recorder....other than that the only thing I can think of and I hate to say this but something really bad is going to have to happen for her to wake up and see jow dangerouse it is

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