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I am sick of feeling stuck and lost. I am a SAHM to two kids, ds (2) and dd (6). I am 24 years old. I have been married for 3 years. Last year at this time, I was working full time at a law firm as an administrative assistant and getting ready for fall classes for my bachelors degree in business management.I already have an A.S. degree in paralegal studies, but I have no experience in the field, so I cant get hired anywhere for it. We moved out of our apartment and into a house big enough for our family. However, our new house was a hundred mile round trip drive every day to and from my work and ds's daycare. My car is older and started to break down alot because of the extra miles. I started classes in August. I was only taking two online classes. Between working full time, the drive, and the two kids, my classes were falling behind so I withdrew from them. I now owe the school 500 dollars before I can go back. A month after I withdrew from my classes, I got fired for missing so much work due to my car breaking down constantly. My alternator went out and while I was getting it fixed, my supervisor called me and told me that I was being let go. This was in December of last year. I am still collecting unemployment. I have yet to find a job that pays enough to cover bills and daycare. I cant work 2nd or 3rd shift jobs because of my husband's job. He works 13 hours a day, 5 days a week. We dont qualify for food stamps, medicaid or any other assistance, because they count my husband's income before deductions and my unemployment. However, my husband pays alot in child support for his son from a previous relationship. We are getting more and more behind on bills and my husband is starting to take it out on me. If I were to go find a job right now, it would cost 300 dollars or more a week for daycare because my daughter is out on summer vacation. I feel stuck, lost, and angry. I am used to working full time and going to school full time. I am not used to just sitting around with the kids all day. To make matters worse, we are down to one car, which he takes to work, so I am in this house all day every day with both kids. No adult interaction, and he doesnt want to talk when he gets home from a long day at work. My husband told me this morning that I need to go find a job making 20 dollars an hour so that he can stay at home with the kids all day. I am going stir crazy. I am sick of being broke. I am sick of not knowing where my life is going from here. I dont have a plan, and I dont have a clue of what to do to fix any of this. I am starting to get in a bad rut and getting really depressed. It is not good. Someone please help me figure out what to do, or where to go from here. I have tried looking into a six week CNA course, but we dont have the money for that. I have considered looking into like the National Guard or something, but I wouldn't be able to do that with two kids and how much my husband works.