Have you tried separating them for a bit?
Make a get along shirt.
send them outside. My brother would hit eachother, yell, and wrestle. If we went outside and got into a project, we were an amazing team. give them waterguns, or something to build, or some activity to do. GL
My Dad used to tell us to either stop or he was going to hang us up by our toes.
Honestly though we were told to figure it out for ourselves at that age by my parents. When my two oldest would fight I would separate them and let things cool down.
If you wouldn't treat your friend like that, its not ok to treat your sibling like that. Start stripping them of belongings every time they fight. If they are left with nothing but a bed and two pairs of clothing - so be it
What is causing the problem between them? Can triggers be eliminated? Kids are cranky if they dont get nutrition every few hours or enough sleep or enough exercise and then take it out on each other for no what seems like no reason. When you have a problem with what they are doing, do you speak respectfully to them to explain the problem so that they have a model as to how to respectfully resolve problems with each other? Have you all set down and discussed what is okay to do when your upset with someone and what is not. This conversation needs to take place during neutral times when no one is too upset to think straight. "It's okay to yell Stop I don't like it. but its not okay to add stupid idiot at the end of that statement. Discuss how each persons body is their own especiially made body and should be treated with respect. Wrestling is fine if both are okay with it but when someone says stop, it's over. If they can't control themself then playing like that isn't allowed until they mature.
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