So after a few months of me being polite and her literally not saying one word to me or anyone else while im around, i got frustrated and asked her why she bothered to come chill if she wasnt gonna say anything, and all she had to say is "i dont have anything to say"
So from then on i just stopped trying to be polite to her and ignored her ass and just acted like she wasnt there.
I dont know if this might have anything to do with it, dh says it does but idk, but im about 5'8 and 130 lbs, she is a few inches taller than me and probably double my weight. Dont get me wrong, she has a pretty face (and huge boobs that she definitely shows off!) but she is kind of a large woman. Dh says she might be intimidated by me because i am so much smaller and outgoing than she is.
When dh and i got married (no wedding, we eloped) she texted him and asked him if "he really married me" and why he didnt tell her boyfriend... we didnt really tell anyone but our parents. Us getting married was personal and we didnt want people bugging us to include them when we wanted it to be special and between us. So after he told her that yes, we got married she just texted back "oh well congrats i guess..." wtf is that supposed to mean?
So recently i have tried to be nice to her again, asked her questions about her job, just tried to make pleasant and polite conversation and i hear from DH that shes saying she doesnt like me. I DONT GET IT! This chick has basically been a cold stone wall to me from the first time I met her two years ago, and with the exception of the one time when I asked her why she never said a word, I havent been anything but polite to her.
Dh and his friend are really close and I know it would mean a lot to him for us all to get along, he sees that I try with her and she's just weird about me for some reason! Dhs friend and I can be friendly, but if his gf is around, he acts all awkward and weird too... without her around, we joke and laugh and act like normal human beings.
So after two years, should I ask her what her problem with me is, give up on being nice to her, or just keep being polite whenever she is around? Being polite to her almost feels fake to me because she doesnt say a single word to me... I dont get what her deal is!