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I snapped her phone in half. And took her door off the hinges.

Anonymous
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My 16 year old has been in to alot of trouble lately.

Up until she turned 14 she was always well behaved and was never into any trouble and we had a great relationship.

Shortly after she turned 14 she decided that she's a "grown woman" and doesn't have to listen to us.

It's pretty much been an up hill battle.

Things will start to go good then she gets into trouble.

She doesn't get into trouble at school though. Still makes straight As. But her attitude? It sucks.

We recently let her take a baby sitting job.

She saved the money she was making. And she bought a phone. She had one previously but she lost it and I wasn't going to another one.

So a few weeks ago she bought a phone.

Since then I've found her talking with much older guys online.

So i started doing random checks on everything. She wasn't happy about it. I didn't care.

I did a random check this morning.
She had her phone at breakfast and I made her give it to me.

I found a conversation between her and some one named "Guy".
In their conversation she had stated that she "might be sending pics later(;;"

I also found a conversation between her and a man she is not suppose to have any contact with.

I stuck the phone in my pocket because I didn't want to talk to her about it front of her siblings.

After breakfast I pulled her aside.

She told me that I had no right to go through her phone because she bought it with her own money and its her personal property.

I told her I didn't care whose money she used to pay for the phone, she is still my child Nd living under my roof which means she will follow my rules, and my rules do not include talking to a man she's not suppose to have contact with or sending "pics" to guys.

She did admit that she met "Guy" online.

I explained to her how dangerous it can be to form a relationship with someone online, that he IS a stranger and she has NO clue who it might really be.

She claimed that i am "ruining her life".

She started yelling and screaming and demanded that I give her her phone back.

I took it out of my pocket, snapped it in half and handed it to her.

She stormed off upstairs and slammed the door really hard. I went up and told her that if she slammed it Again he door would come off.

She slammed it in my face and locked it. So I took it off the hinges.

I then locked the computer with a password that I will have to put in before anyone can use it.

She is now claiming that I must hate her.

I told her that I don't hate her.

She called me bitch and I told her "I do not hate you. I love you. But I hate your attitude and if you talk to me like that again I will have no problem popping your in mouth."

She turned to storm off and I told her to get back down here, I made her sit on the bottom step and I told her she can get up when her nasty attitude is gone. Twenty minutes later I asked her If she was done with her tantrum and she gave me an attitude so she's still sitting there.

I don't really know what to do at this point.






eta the guy she isnt suppose to have contact with is 27 and is a guy who we caught her 'dating' at 14. the police couldnt do anyth4ng and counseling was sugessted but did no good. we had to drag her there and then she wouldnt talk other than to 7ay we were ruining her life.

right before that she had started sneaking out and stealing.

she became quite violent but that ended after she hit me. i called the police and that scared her en6ugh to stop her but she's already pushed her siblings and father so far away that they're afraid to talk to her or even sit in a room alone with her. I think it pisses her off that I'm not as easy to push away and that I'm never going to be afraid of her in any way.

Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 14, 2013 at 4:46 PM
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lucky2Beeme
by Ruby Member on Jul. 14, 2013 at 4:50 PM
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She needs to be put on a very short leash. Good for you for breaking her phone and taking her door. Let her see whats its like to be treated like she cant be trusted. She can't. I would keep her off the internet, not replace the phone and keep her in her room until she can act respectful and talk that way.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jul. 14, 2013 at 4:51 PM
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If she sends nude pictures, the guy can be held responsible for having child porn on his phone. *Warn her that she may be charged as well. 

I would find out more about the guy and make sure he knows he is talking to an underage girl. And if he requests those special pictures, I will take the information to the police and get him charged with solicitation of child pornography. (Check your local laws on that one) 

I probably wouldn't have broken the phone. But I would have taken it away. Whether or not she bought it. I would probably cut off her service as well. And slammed doors, do mean no door. 


*Red part added so I quite being quoted just to add that she may be charged. 

sweetieiv
by Ruby Member on Jul. 14, 2013 at 4:51 PM
Good for you. I don't have teens yet so idk what works and what doesn't but it sounds like you stood your ground and punished her reasonably.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jul. 14, 2013 at 4:52 PM
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Those are already gone. I'm about ready to take everything out of her room and leave her with a bed and a weeks worth if clothing....


Quoting lucky2Beeme:

She needs to be put on a very short leash. Good for you for breaking her phone and taking her door. Let her see whats its like to be treated like she cant be trusted. She can't. I would keep her off the internet, not replace the phone and keep her in her room until she can act respectful and talk that way.


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jul. 14, 2013 at 4:54 PM
Dh is checking the guy out now. She admitted to meeting him online so he's in her email account rooting around right now.


Quoting Anonymous:

If she sends nude pictures, the guy can be held responsible for having child porn on his phone. 

I would find out more about the guy and make sure he knows he is talking to an underage girl. And if he requests those special pictures, I will take the information to the police and get him charged with solicitation of child pornography. (Check your local laws on that one) 

I probably wouldn't have broken the phone. But I would have taken it away. Whether or not she bought it. I would probably cut off her service as well. And slammed doors, do mean no door. 


EntrepeneurMom
by The Major on Jul. 14, 2013 at 4:54 PM
Ds is still only 3. But I'm scared.
MrsMiles85
by on Jul. 14, 2013 at 4:55 PM
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You don't know what to do at this point?  You have a teen and from what I just read, you did EVERYTHING you could.  I say GOOD JOB!  I don't believe you actually need advice, just needed a vent.  And if they don't hate you sometimes, you aren't doing your job.

quinnsmom715
by Donna on Jul. 14, 2013 at 4:56 PM
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dont even leave her a weeks worth.give her 2 outfits and introduce her to the world of laundry.


Quoting Anonymous:

Those are already gone. I'm about ready to take everything out of her room and leave her with a bed and a weeks worth if clothing....


Quoting lucky2Beeme:

She needs to be put on a very short leash. Good for you for breaking her phone and taking her door. Let her see whats its like to be treated like she cant be trusted. She can't. I would keep her off the internet, not replace the phone and keep her in her room until she can act respectful and talk that way.




Islandmom2boys
by Platinum Member on Jul. 14, 2013 at 4:56 PM
I'm terrified of the teen years.

You did a good thing.
Foleygirl24
by on Jul. 14, 2013 at 4:56 PM
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I think you are doing the right thing. I would have done the same (as my parents would have to me if I had that attitude). If she is going to act like a child, then you should treat her like one.

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