I've been married for 10 years. We have three kids who will all be in school next year. I've always been a SAHM, but DH has expressed that he wants me to go to work in the fall. That's fine with me. I'd planned on it anyway. However, he expressed to me last night that he doesn't expect his life to change at all, i.e., he doesn't expect to have to start helping around the house or help with the kids at all. He's always been high maintenance. He does nothing around the house, with the kids, or with our vehicles. He doesn't take out the trash. He doesn't make sure the oil in the cars is changed. When I say nothing, I mean absolutely NOTHING. I've been okay with that because I've been a SAHM. But if I'm going to start working, and he expects me to continue to wait on him hand and foot and he won't even help me with the kids...I'm not okay with that.
How about you? Would you leave over something like this? I feel like I would be a single mom with 4 kids instead of 3.