Before we got married he had done it as a young kid due to his parents disappointment in him being a boy when they thought he was going to be a girl. They told him over and over again as he grew up that he should have been a girl. So naturally he explored it trying to figure himself out. When they would find his "girl" clothes they would get mad and yell at him saying your a boy you don't do that.
My DH grew up to be on the feminine side and I love him for it but now I have let him open up to explore his true self. He cross dresses in the sense that he likes Tinkerbell, wears women's underwear, and women's shirts that have Tinkerbell. He does not go out in skirts or dresses or anything like that. His family only knows he really likes Tinkerbell and have now accepted him wearing the shirts. I am the only one that knows about the underwear.
I find myself struggling with the fact that on one hand I love this man with all my heart and want him to be free to be himself in a safe loving place but on the other hand wish I had my DH the way he was before he opened up to me about himself.
We are a vary happy couple that has been together for almost 6 years now with 2 kids. Not really looking for any advice unless you have a DH like mine. Just getting it out and off my mind.