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I spank the kids I babysit for ...... and the parents....UPDATE TO CLEAR UP A FEW THINGS

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Update: I had alot of the same questions so here are a few answers...I am not licensed as I am not required to be in the state I live in...it is only illegal to spank children if you are licensed, I have consulted an attorney. Out of the five children in my care two have been here for three years, two have been here for two years and one has been here a year and a half. I have these children for 50 to 70 hours a week, most weekends, sometimes overnight, and often work 6 to 7 days a week. I got lucky having today off. If these children are going to spend that much time with my family then I am going to treat them like family. I have them when they are sick so their parents dont have to take time off work, I have taken them to appointments, and I take them to do fun things like the movies, swimming, the park, museums, and zoos. Of the five children I have only spanked the two that have been here for three years. The last time I spanked one of them it was two weeks ago and that was actually done because his mother told me to...he threw a metal car at his little brothers head and cut it open. His brother hasnt been spanked in several months. So no I am not an angry violent person who wants to spank small children. I am a person who provides care in an environment where the children are treated as my own are. I attend these kids birthday parties, spend time with them and their families just as they spend time with mine. I know all of the parents fairly well and dont hesitate to call,text, or email them and let them know that their child has acted up and what the punishment has been. We are all working to together to raise happy, healthy, well behaved kids.

know about it and accept it. I run a small inhome daycare. I only accept five children at a time. I cater to those parents that work long hours, have low income, and dont have anyone else to rely on. I have a very low turnover rate and rarely have any openings. I make it very clear in my ad and during the interview that I am a strict disciplinarian who believes in corporal punishment when need, respect of elders, manners, and being kind to others. If the parent that I am interviewing doesnt have the same parenting style as myself then I let them know right away that I dont think it will work out. I dont use spanking for a first time offense or even a second offense and not for every little thing. It has to be something major. I will lay the child across my knees and swat their bottom three times with my hand. I  do not spank any child under the age of two or anyone past the kindergarten age. I have all of the parents sign a release and agreement form for this type of punishment. I let the parents know that I treat their child just as I do my own. I hug them, play with them, cuddle them, comfort them, teach them, and discipline them just as if they were mine. I am very reliable and honest and have never had an issue with a parent in the five years that I have been doing childcare in my home.  I usually have a waiting list a year long and rarely need to advertise due to word of mouth. So would you leave your child in my care?

Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 16, 2013 at 10:18 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jul. 16, 2013 at 10:27 AM
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Baby, I'm from the ghetto and don't give a damn about the cops and I fight like straight up man, anyone touch my kids, their ass is grass you heard, I have no problem pushing a bitches wig back


Quoting Anonymous:

Lol I doubt it.... 


Quoting Anonymous:

If you spanked my kids, I would beat you to death

 


illinoismommy83
by on Jul. 16, 2013 at 10:27 AM
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I know I'm in the minority, but I personally would be fine with it. I expect my children to be well behaved at ALL times and I would not want my kids running wild at daycare. A lot of kids abuse their daycare workers and abuse the other kids because they know they are untouchable. You can set Suzy on fire, kick her in the face, and pee on her, and the worst they can do is put you in timeout for 5 min.

It's not like you'd be spanking my kid daily. I imagine after the first time she'd fall into line and behave.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Jul. 16, 2013 at 10:27 AM
Hell no! If a man smacked a woman everyone would flip out, hit an innocent child and people are ok with it. Fucking sick. You can't just go around hitting people when they don't do something you ask them to, you gotta teach kids how to react the real world. In the real world that's assault!
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 16, 2013 at 10:28 AM

 

Quoting katielovesyou21:

you would have to be a pretty close friend to spank my kid. It would also have to be major.

 

The five children that are currently in my care I have had three of them for three years and one for two years and the last one for a year and a half. I very rarely spank and have not actually spank three of them its just an option. The two I have spanked it was for major reasons.
skittlefart
by on Jul. 16, 2013 at 10:28 AM

Nope. If the other parents agree with it then go for it. I'm just not comfortable with someone else disciplining my kids that way. 

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acrogodess
by Ruby Member on Jul. 16, 2013 at 10:29 AM
The only people allowed to spank my kids besides their dad or I, is our immediate family: his brothers& sister, my brother, my mother and their godparents & and respective spouses... However, I grew up in a time when corporal punishment was allowed in schools with parental consent, so as long as you have permission, I see nothing wrong with it.

Only other children I have ever spanked are my nieces and nephews, including my best friend's children who call me auntie. Yes, with their parents permission.

I worked in a professional child care setting at a school and a daycamp. I would have lost my job in a heartbeat had I spanked any of those children.
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tamullen607
by on Jul. 16, 2013 at 10:30 AM
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Absolutely! It sound like you parent like I do.

lovemymini
by Emerald Member on Jul. 16, 2013 at 10:30 AM

Never.  I spank my DS, put I would never allow a non family member to spank them.  I personally think this is a lawsuit waiting to happen. 

Mel0dy
by Ruby Member on Jul. 16, 2013 at 10:30 AM

HELL NO. I would charge any mother fucker who thought it was okay to hit my child. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 16, 2013 at 10:30 AM

 

Quoting illinoismommy83:

I know I'm in the minority, but I personally would be fine with it. I expect my children to be well behaved at ALL times and I would not want my kids running wild at daycare. A lot of kids abuse their daycare workers and abuse the other kids because they know they are untouchable. You can set Suzy on fire, kick her in the face, and pee on her, and the worst they can do is put you in timeout for 5 min.

It's not like you'd be spanking my kid daily. I imagine after the first time she'd fall into line and behave.

 I rarely actually spank them...if I was spanking them all the time I would find a new job because I obviously wasnt capable of doing mine...I have a set of rules and consequences that I follow and make clear to the children. I take the five I babysit for and my own children places all the time and am told how amazingly behaved they all are....that makes me proud of them and myself because we are a team working together and learning how to behave.

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