First let me say, I do not spank dd, nor do I have anything against people who choose to Spank. If it work for your family, more power to you. But this is just something I don't quite understand.
We have a 16 month yold. We started potty training a month ago. She was showing alot of signs that she was ready to start potty training so I figured, why not, the worst that can happen would be that she isn't quite ready and we try again when she's a little better.
Sil started potty training her 2 year old about a week after we started with dd.
Sil has been saying that she doesn't understand why her daughter has alot more accidents than dd does.
I told her, all kids are different and learn at different rates, I potty trained my youngest siblings and I though that kid was NEVER going to figure it out lol
Then she said that she doesn't understand why her daughter tries to hide her wet panties.
I told her that my dd gets very upset when she has an accident and that I think it's probably pretty common for kids to get upset, or frustrated or try to hide the fact that they had an accident.
But I had only been talking to her on the phone.
Sils roof caved in on part of her house so she and her daughter Re saying with us (her husband is a truck driver and is out of town).
What I think is odd is that when her daughter has an accident, sil spanks her and tells her "no! That's bad. Very very bad".
Like I said, I have nothing against people who spank, but I just don't think that spanking over an accident during potty training is the way to go. It seems to me that maybe that's why her daughter is trying to hide her panties, because she knows that when her mom finds out she had an accident that she's going to her into trouble.
I thought about telling sil my thoughts but I don't really want to but in.
I know it's her child and her choice.
But just last night she told me she doesn't know what to do with her daughter. I told her they'd only been Woking at potty training for a short time and that it takes a while. I told her its normal, it's a new thing to them and accidents are going to happen.
But honestly, I don't think that the spanking is helping her daughter.
She doesn't do anything to indicate that she needs to potty. She went though every pair of panties she has yesterday, and hid most of them.
I told sil that for the first week with dd I was asking her every 15 minutes I'd she needed to potty and taking her to the potty chair. But she says she doesn't have time to run to the bathroom with her every 15 minutes.
Sil also seems to her very frustrated with it and yell at her daughter.
She also doesn't want to have to wash laundry every day, she says she doesn't have time for it.
I'm really trying to be helpful here. But I don't know how to be without being honest and telling her how I feel about the things shes doing, but at the same time I feel like its not place and I should stay out of it.
What do you think? Would you say something/recommend something? Or just try to completely stay out of it?