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DSD is in foster care, and the foster mom...

Anonymous
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Said we can't buy DSD nice clothes anymore! 


DSD is 4. When we go to visits, if DSD's clothes get dirty or wet, or if she has an accident, we change her into clothes from our house. Most of the clothes are GAP, Old Navy, Children's Place, etc.

Foster mom sent social worker an email today that we can't buy DSD 'name brand' clothes anymore because it makes the other children in the foster home 'feel bad' that DSD has nicer clothes than them. WTF.


It wouldn't bother me so much except I don't see why we have to go spend extra to go buy her WALMART clothes, when we already have a FULL wardrobe for her at our house. And no, we don't spend a huge fortune on DSD's clothes either, it's all bought with store credit at consignment, or yard sale cheapies, or at huge giveaways that are in the area. 

We don't keep the clothes she wore to the visit, we send that back to the foster home. And we never get the clothes we provide back, either.

Idk, guess I just needed to vent... 



ETA:
We don't have custody of DSS or DSD right now. Both were taken from biomom due to gross neglect, and we can't get full custody until all the accusations biomom made against us are cleared. (Saying that DH abused her, is harassing her, etc; and that I 'hate' her kids and won't treat them right.)

DSS is being placed with us next month, and DSD soon after. We're transitioning with DSS right now so he can live with us full time, they won't let us do both the kids at once. We didn't get to pick which child comes home first.
 

Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 18, 2013 at 8:15 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jul. 18, 2013 at 8:16 PM
Is your husband trying to get custody?
anyotherday
by Ruby Member on Jul. 18, 2013 at 8:17 PM
Why can't you get custody?
SageAdvice
by on Jul. 18, 2013 at 8:17 PM
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 Um NO they can't do that and I seriously doubt they would allow her to dictate that.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jul. 18, 2013 at 8:18 PM
You can send get nice clothes but not have custody of her?
alexsmomaubrys2
by Emerald Member on Jul. 18, 2013 at 8:18 PM

I want to know why she is in the system. Why doesn't your husband have custody of his daughter?

december911
by Bronze Member on Jul. 18, 2013 at 8:18 PM

why is she in foster care and not with ya'll?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 18, 2013 at 8:19 PM
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We're working on getting custody. 
DSS is being placed with us next month, and DSD shortly after. 

thenameshailie
by Emerald Member on Jul. 18, 2013 at 8:19 PM

Why is she in foster care if she has two parents that care about her clothes?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 18, 2013 at 8:19 PM

Social worker forwarded the email to us from FM saying not to buy her name brand clothes anymore. 

tonesofhome
by on Jul. 18, 2013 at 8:19 PM

wtf

why can't you just take in her?

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