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I cant believe what I just found! DF and Casual encounters...*edit*4

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So I got on DF computer to search on Craigslist for baby stuff and as im typing it the URL bar suggests a recent page for casual encounters! So of course i click it. Highlighted (like he's clicked on it) is M4W, W4W, and W4MW. 

Im so confused. He's at work right now. I snooped two weeks ago on his FB cause he got a message and i glanced over and he flipped out and stopped dressing LO to move his lap top. The only thing i read was something about a strip club so i later snooped. That was just some bs guy talk but i found where he messaged a girl and was talking to her saying he was so horny and blah blah blah... But there wasnt too much of a converstation cause she didnt seem too interested. At that point we were going through some shit and he claims thats why he must had said it but he "doesnt remember" and now this. 

Idk wtf to think right now. Today he asked me what i would do if i found he cheated. He's always been amazing to me and before we dated alls i ever heard was great things but now idk. 

*Edit* He was supposed to be home at 12:30 and at 12:16 said he was going to be really late because the place was a wreck.  (He works at a restaurant/bar.) And he only has 1% left on his phone. He text me at like 7-8ish and said his phone was starting to die so i asked him to cut it off til he left work because i dont like him driving with no phone incase something happens. 30 miutes later he's on FB via mobile. 

*Edit2* 2 1/2 hours later still not home but yet still texted me to say otw when his phone had 1% at 12...
*Edit3* So he got home about 3 and still had 1% left. He said his friend was supposed to text me and tell me thanks for letting DF take him home but I never got that text. Also he said the place was a wreck thats why he would be so late but he said that there was 3 servers which is more than normal so he didn't make many tips so why would it take that long if there was more people to help? Then this morning I asked him to message his cousin to see if she wanted some baby stuff because she's due any day now and when I asked if I could see what he wrote to make sure he told her the right stuff he just shut his laptop and sat it on the floor. Im outside smoking and about to confront him when I go inside.

*Edit4* So I confronted him and he said it was so long ago that he doesn't remember and how am I going to ask him something like that. "If I just asked someone a question like why would they be honest and admit to talking to people on CL? " How do you say something like that? He was just furious that I would even ask that. Etc. So basically we just got in a huge fight and then go in another huge fight later about something different. I want to feel like im not going to keep finding shit but then ill just be wondering if he's just hiding it better. Sigh.
Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 19, 2013 at 12:02 AM
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by on Jul. 19, 2013 at 12:14 AM
1 mom liked this too.

Quoting Anonymous:

I would break his laptop, then he can't search and talk shit with other girls. But I'm a bitch.

by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 19, 2013 at 12:14 AM

I was using his phone to call someone and an email popped up saying "discreet head 4 you" So later i got on CL and found it and sent him an email telling him he was disgusting and i was done. He told me what he does in his free time is "his buisness".... sigh. But yea not with that guy anymore.

Quoting Bitch.please:

Did you find them on cl?

Quoting Anonymous:Ive been through this CL cheating bs before and the last time it was M4M. Who TF do i end up with?
Quoting Bitch.please:Be glad it wasn't M4M

by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 19, 2013 at 12:15 AM

Ya.... lol

Quoting Nynnie:

Well u can bet he aint gonna tell u if he did now lol

Quoting Anonymous:

Well I told him i would punch him in the face over and over and if he tried to stop me then id knee him in the dick and then continue punching him while he was in pain. Then leave and take the LO and disappear.

Quoting Anonymous:

Sounds like he has cheated and is contemplating telling you but wants to find out what your reaction is gonna be

by on Jul. 19, 2013 at 12:16 AM
I agree, and people don't usually do what they think they would do in these situations.

Quoting SyllabaryBisque:This. Plus, rushing to move the laptop when he receives a message looks suspicious as well.r

Quoting areyouatroll:

It's odd he is asking what you would do if he cheated...
by on Jul. 19, 2013 at 12:16 AM
sounds like he's looking at his options.
by Anonymous 9 on Jul. 19, 2013 at 12:17 AM
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He messaged a girl saying he was horny and you wouldn't worry?

Quoting OwlNuggets:

I've looked at those before just for lols...

I wouldn't worry.

by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 19, 2013 at 12:20 AM

He just texted me saying he would be home late and his phone has 1% left. Sigh.

by Anonymous 10 on Jul. 19, 2013 at 12:20 AM
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Ive been through the same thing. Like exactly. Treated well, things are going good, maybe a few arguements here and there but to me I know what arguements are "normal" and are inevitable and nothing to sweat about..but to some men an arguement period gives reason to believe things could be rocky..trying my best to explain? lol

Anyway, my df and i were good, and i saw in his emails responses from the craigslist ads of the same type. and dirty talk from him to other girls and vice versa. it's a horrible feeling..feels like being cheated on. this happened awhile ago we are still together and thinking about it now still makes me sick. i know for a fact he never cheated. but still it broke my heart and i was really wondering if I/we could get through this. his excuse was that we were fighting a lot at the time and he wasn't serious about it, just looking out of curiousity and just talking sh*t to the girls online but didn't actually mean anything or planned on doing anything at all. i believe that part, that he was just messing around, but the point is it definitely falls into the category of being absolutely wrong and unfaithful. he felt horrible, he knew he was wrong and vowed never to repeat those actions...

but...i still think about it on occasion, still wonder if he's kept his word because i can't watch his every move. and when we fight i go in our room and he usually watches tv in the living room and is on the computer for hours. i hate porn, which i know he looks at when we fight...we used to argue about that, now its to the point where i chose the lesser of two evils and decided the porn i can accept the craigslist stuff definitely not. but ive become insecure, and will never forget the things he said to all those girls. Yes i forgave him, he's a great fiance, great father. But i'll never forget. and i'm always wondering, i hate when he's on the computer now. it's awful, not how i want to live and not how i want my relationship, but i go to counseling and it's a work in progress.

my point: i understand, you're not the only one, and it's not easy to just move on from but with dedication from both parties it can be done.

however, with his question about what you would do if he cheated...that would definitely worry me? why ask? why wonder? shouldn't you already know the answer? i'd be suspicious about that, and try not to be naive to the truth becomes people react first with their emotions, don't believe his answers because it's what you want to be true stick to the facts and find out the truth. if something doesn't make sense there is a reason why ...

Good luck to you

by Anonymous 11 on Jul. 19, 2013 at 12:21 AM
I look at those all the time... Actually I just closed it out to come to CM! Lol it's just for fun though, I never message them.
by Anonymous 12 on Jul. 19, 2013 at 12:21 AM

Probably nothing, I found stuff on my husbands phone of an escort service.  I flipped, stomach was in knots for 2 weeks cause I didn't say anything.  Literally was throwing up, cried every day thinking he was getting escort service chicks.  Turns out, the website also has porn videos and naked pics of the girls.  He was just looking at the free porn stuff.  I am not opposed to him watching porn, so this was a major relief.  But I don't know your stance on your df watching porn or pics.  If you are opposed to that, then talk to him about it.  I personally don't see the big deal in him watching porn.  I watch it sometimes with him too, no biggie. 

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