My husband and I are in a rough patch. He is not abusive, he is not a loser, he is not cheating, he does not yell at me, he has never called me a bad name... but we have a very shitty sex life and he wont go get seen by a DR. That in turn makes me wonder if he cheats. He doesnt. I have followed him and even put a program on his phone to send me messages, browser info and basically shows me everything he does (even tracks where he is). He has not lied to me about where he has been and I do not think he has cheated. My friends had me utterly CONVINCED of this, which made me more mad at him and made things worse.
He is suffering from depression as a result of low T. He had this problem in the past and took over the counter pills to help, and it did help a lot.
I feel like my friends are instigating the issues we have. I really believed everything they were saying for a long time about him (even though they dont even know him), and I mindlessly took their advice because I was desperate.
Now, my husband and I had a "Come to God" talk with each other about marriage, divorce, the kids, what would happen if I left him, if he loves me etc... We decided we still very much love each other, and besides the romance our relationship is fine. The relationship issues all stem from one thing, and we are trying to fix it. He is making a good effort. I am not a stupid woman. I think its something we can fix. My friends are all pissed at me for not leaving him now and telling me I am a door mat. I dont get why they all want me to leave him so bad. I havent dogged him and said he is a bad man.
Its three people who know about the situation. I dont talk about it to everyone, just my three closest friends.