I don't want to marry him cause I'll have to pay alimony for his ex wife if something happens to him
I had a post while back asking about if my credit would be affected if I marry my boyfriend. Since he has poor credit cause he couldn't make payments on time due to his ex having money garnished from his checks for alimony. They have no kids together and we have one son. I talked to a lawyer from avvo.com and they said if I marry him, not only will his debt will be my debt, but I'll practically be gaining his ex wife too. My boyfriend has to pay alimony for a lifetime, not 6 years btw to correct myself. So if something happens to him, heart starts to fail him. accident at work that leaves him disabled, anything at all that prevents him from earning a paycheck, I'll be responsible for continuing the alimony payments. I know it's not fair, but then again life itself isn't fair. I love this man with all my heart, no one has ever treated me so good. Last thing I need is for him to end up in jail for failure of alimony payments. An 80 year old man with Alztimeers was sent to jail, listen to this link. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WAs8S0LxNRE
I know that's a totally different issue but regardless, proof that shows how some women continue to be vindicitive well into their 80s for money. Anyway, we decided to have power of attorney papers drawn up and notorized. Only for healthcare, not for finances. I don't want to have a court battle with his ex fighting for money that she's entitled to, not for my son when my son can receive money for my life insurance/401K only. My boyfriend is deeply saddened that he can never call me his wife, especially since I never been married and have no idea what it's like. But I tell him it's for the best, at least we still have each other and our son. First wives always win every battle, it's the way society is. Any wives afterward, second third, etc. always get the short end of the stick. Unless the first wife is passed away and then hopefully that first wife's family doesn't fight for money entitlements too but so far I don't know whose done that and have succeeded yet.
http://www.padivorceonline.com/papages/Alimony/alimony.asp <----It does exist in my state. Permanent alimony, not lying people.