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How to tell husband about online guy?

Anonymous
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I have someone I talk to online.  He comforts me and tells me sweet things when my husband is unavailable or refuses to give me attention.  We also occasionally talk dirty (Skype).  I don't know him in real life, only by the internet.  I know if husband knew about this, he would be upset.  But I don't see how it's any worse than him using porn or strip clubs when I'm not around or unwilling to have sex.  I guess I want advice on how to bring this up to him in a way he will be understanding of it.  

By the way, he's easily offended, very insecure, and religious. So you can see why this is difficult for me! I'm tired of hiding it from him. 

UPDATE: I plan to eventually divorce him, but I want to wait until the kids are a bit older. We've talked about divorce before, and feelings, etc. but we can't talk about our issues without him getting offended no matter how nice I am. I've suggested counseling but he says we're too poor. A lot of you have a good point, he probably won't take it well. So I'll plan to just keep the guy on the side and keep things going smoothly with husband.  The porn thing doesn't bother me because I've learned to let the little things go.  And the internet guy has helped me with that, because I don't feel so lonely.  I feel though that if i can do that, he should do the same for me.

Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 20, 2013 at 4:07 PM
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svolkov
by Emerald Member on Jul. 20, 2013 at 4:09 PM
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You stop cheating on your husband and stay offline.
smilesmile
by Bronze Member on Jul. 20, 2013 at 4:09 PM
Is he in the same town as you?
ColleenF30
by Lube Girl on Jul. 20, 2013 at 4:10 PM
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Unlike porn or strip clubs you are actually forming a relationship with another person. It is called an emotional affair. Unless you are in an open marriage...um no.

New.OrleansLady
by Platinum Member on Jul. 20, 2013 at 4:10 PM
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So you expect to tell him you've emotionally cheated and you want him to understand..yea don't think that will happen. Good luck
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jul. 20, 2013 at 4:10 PM
I don't think he is going to understand...
Mommy2b2many
by on Jul. 20, 2013 at 4:10 PM
Um... well; you may want to start by breaking it off with your online boyfriend...

Good luck trying to get your DH to "understand" that it's totally okay you were emotionally cheating on him; I doubt he will
o.O....
by Cara on Jul. 20, 2013 at 4:11 PM
You really don't see the difference...?
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jul. 20, 2013 at 4:12 PM
Maybe you should just pack your bags and leave...
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jul. 20, 2013 at 4:13 PM
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Why not just cancel all contact and stop the adulterous relationship? Then work on your marriage.  FYI, if your dh is religious, he wouldnt be attending strip clubs. 

LoveNaCupcake
by Gold Member on Jul. 20, 2013 at 4:13 PM
The difference between porn and what you're doing is the emotional aspect. You and this guy are having an emotional affair and are going to him for things you should be going to your dh for.
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