I have someone I talk to online. He comforts me and tells me sweet things when my husband is unavailable or refuses to give me attention. We also occasionally talk dirty (Skype). I don't know him in real life, only by the internet. I know if husband knew about this, he would be upset. But I don't see how it's any worse than him using porn or strip clubs when I'm not around or unwilling to have sex. I guess I want advice on how to bring this up to him in a way he will be understanding of it.
By the way, he's easily offended, very insecure, and religious. So you can see why this is difficult for me! I'm tired of hiding it from him.
UPDATE: I plan to eventually divorce him, but I want to wait until the kids are a bit older. We've talked about divorce before, and feelings, etc. but we can't talk about our issues without him getting offended no matter how nice I am. I've suggested counseling but he says we're too poor. A lot of you have a good point, he probably won't take it well. So I'll plan to just keep the guy on the side and keep things going smoothly with husband. The porn thing doesn't bother me because I've learned to let the little things go. And the internet guy has helped me with that, because I don't feel so lonely. I feel though that if i can do that, he should do the same for me.