May be long, but PLEASE read.. id love some advice..
SO and I have been together for almost 4 years and have a 20 month old together. After our m/c (before our baby) things started to kind of.., not be so great. I started asking for more help around the house, to be interactive with the kids (I have one from a previous relationship), just to be more 'husband-y'. Nothing. We've had numerous amount of talks. I've poured my heart out to him several times. I explained how GREATFUL we were for his job, but how much we needed him at home too. He would seriously get off work at 3pm, sleep until the kids went to bed at 8pm, eat his plate of dinner in the living room and watch TV. He never played with the kids, house work and yard work were all my responsibility, even while working 30 hours a week.
Many arguments, sleepless nights, hurt feelings later, I decided my girls and I deserved better. Started to save and work on my credit to get our own place. I wasn't interested in sex with SO, I stopped waiting up for him, trying to include him in anything we were doing (it was always a no. For pretty much EVERYTHING)etc. my mind is basically made up, I'm done.
Now he's changing. He's been playing with the girls a little more, not yelling at my DD like before, and he's trying to be affectionate and show me he loves me. Normally, after our talks he'd 'change' for a day, it's been two weeks of the same good stuff. He's actually being helpful and loving.
But I don't have the same feelings. I feel like he's just doing this to get laid. (And I've told him that before. Of course he gets mad) I feel like its been two years of me begging for a change, like its too late now. Like my heart isn't in it. But I feel like I owe it to my youngest to try.. I just don't know.