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Adopting a dog is like adopting a baby.

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Kind of.

Dh and I have been thinking about getting another dog. Not this week or next-but sometime around the end of the year or beginning of the new year. We lost our male chi a few weeks ago. It seems as though our female chi is adjusting okay so we don't think another companion is necessary for her and with DS starting school in the fall we want to wait and see how he adjusts to that. We both plan to volunteer at DS' school and he's also doing soccer so a puppy that's a few months old will be hard to train on top of all that. We also both work full time and I'm a full time student PLUS I have a part-time job (I work retail. Its like I'm NEVER home during the holidays between school and work). So we really want to get all of that under control and get through the holiday season before getting another puppy.

I was thinking we could adopt. We've gotten our past two dogs from breeders because I really wanted a certain breed and chihuahuas-they can be kind of neurotic. We wanted a puppy so we knew what we were getting. That might sound harsh but with a little kid I didn't want to risk having an older dog that could have some left over issues from their former owners. I felt better raising the dog from very early on. It worked better for our family.

But now that our son is older and is used to dog and knows how to behave around them and with them, we think an older dog from a rescue could be a good fit for our family. But seriously. These applications-the questions-they're kind of...intense. First of all, I was already accused TWICE of wanting a dog for Christmas and I got a lecture from two different people about how people buy dogs for Christmas and then find out its too much for them to handle and they take the dog to the pound. I explained that no, that actually wasn't true. I want the dog AFTER Christmas. And of course I explained that we had a dog already, we had no plans to get rid of her, lol. But its like they weren't hearing me.

One of rescues I talked to was really alarmed that my dog had died. I explained that it was a shock and she kept asking about the medical care the dog had received. I said over and over again that we were shocked because everything had been fine at the last check-up. She said we should have been taking our dogs in more often. Our vet has NEVER said our dogs need to come in twice a year for regular check-ups. In fact, my vet always laughed at me for being so over the top in our vet care. You know how new moms call all the time about their kid sniffling? That's how I am with my dogs. Unlike my son, they can't tell me what's wrong and what hurts like my son can so I have to go based on their behavior. If something seemed off, we were going to the vet.

Finally, I was alarmed at the home visits. One of the rescues said they stop by-unannounced for home visits. I think that's a little much. If my references check out and i pass the vet reference, once the dog comes home with me-its MY dog. Its MY home. You don't need to come. Now, I can KIND OF understand visits BEFORE the adoption. Unannounced seems strange but I think it makes more sense than visits AFTER. I don't mind someone coming once if they set up an appointment and want to make sure I don't have any big holes in my yard and even after if they want to come over and see the dog's area...but stopping by unannounced?

I don't know. I feel like they have this ridiculous standard that even i can't meet and I'm a REALLY responsible pet owner. Everyone in my home is fixed, everyone has their own space, my home is clean, we have toys for the dog, cats, we do pretty extensive training to keep them safe and happy...I just felt like they were judging me when I hadn't even done anything wrong.
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by on Jul. 21, 2013 at 5:52 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jul. 21, 2013 at 6:03 PM
That would be why I got my dog from Craigslist. I realize these rescues are trying to make sure the pets go to good homes, but there reaches a point where it becomes overkill and they are driving away potential adoptive families by the dozens. My home is my own private property and nobody is welcome to inspect it without a damn warrant. I also am not going to submit to what amounts to a background check to own a dog. Nope.
quickbooksworm
by Ruby Member on Jul. 21, 2013 at 6:04 PM

A lot of times people will adopt dogs from a rescue then use them for puppy mills.  Home visits are pretty common for animal rescues. 

But it seems they were really over the top.  You need to be able to make individual choices for individual pets.  People seem to want to make blanket statements that if you don't do this or that you're a horrible pet owner, when in reality you are making a good choice for that particular pet, like when you don't get a really old cat fixed.

davnrori
by Platinum Member on Jul. 21, 2013 at 6:05 PM

 I agree! The questions they ask are invasive and stupid. It's a dog. There are so many dogs out there needing a good home that you would think that these organizations would be more willing to part with them. But no. They want you to jump through a million hoops. Fine. Keep your rescue if you want that much information. I will buy a dog from a pet store. Is that better? No? A pet store just wants my money and doesn't care if I'm a good person. You want my money AND a notarized statement from my vet, my mom, my friend, my high school principal saying that I am a good person. Not really your business, but whatever.

The funny thing is, is that it's just dogs. Cats or kittens you can practically get for free just for walking in the door. Donate to our dog rescue and get a free kitten! Bonus if you take a pair!

spooky415
by Ruby Member on Jul. 21, 2013 at 6:07 PM
we'll definitely look around when its time but unfortunately, most of the shelters around here only have pits and pit mixes. i have nothing against pits as a breed, but they're too big for our apartment. we need a smaller breed.

Quoting Kmakksmom:

That is so odd. If this was just rescues that you talked to, go to the animal shelters where you live. There are always animals at those places.



Good luck.
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tifferie
by A$$tastic on Jul. 21, 2013 at 6:07 PM
That is the thing with these shelters where you live. It is all pitt bulls. I tried and that was all we found. Don't you have cats as well?


Quoting spooky415:

I want a smaller breed because we live in an apartment. the only thing around here is pit bulls and pit bull mixes. i don't have anything against pit bulls but they're not a good fit for our family.



Quoting Redwoods_Mama:

Ugh, rescues.



 



Go to the pound.  I got a very nice, sweet little chi from ours.  He has fit in perfectly.  Chihuahuas... honestly, if they're not being screaming little jerks in a noisy pound, they're sweethearts.


Redwoods_Mama
by Platinum Member on Jul. 21, 2013 at 6:08 PM

 

Oh yeah.  I forget other places are not CA.  We have dozens of chis, dachshunds, tiny spaniels and even "morkies" (gag me, but the dogs are nice themselves) in our pound every single day.  Most are sweet babies. 

Quoting spooky415:

I want a smaller breed because we live in an apartment. the only thing around here is pit bulls and pit bull mixes. i don't have anything against pit bulls but they're not a good fit for our family.

Quoting Redwoods_Mama:

Ugh, rescues.


 


Go to the pound.  I got a very nice, sweet little chi from ours.  He has fit in perfectly.  Chihuahuas... honestly, if they're not being screaming little jerks in a noisy pound, they're sweethearts.


 

Kmakksmom
by Stefanie on Jul. 21, 2013 at 6:09 PM
ahh, that happens. Around here they have all kinds.

Quoting spooky415:

we'll definitely look around when its time but unfortunately, most of the shelters around here only have pits and pit mixes. i have nothing against pits as a breed, but they're too big for our apartment. we need a smaller breed.



Quoting Kmakksmom:

That is so odd. If this was just rescues that you talked to, go to the animal shelters where you live. There are always animals at those places.





Good luck.
Redwoods_Mama
by Platinum Member on Jul. 21, 2013 at 6:09 PM

Also, how about craigslist?  Might be worth a shot.

I wouldn't adopt a pitt either.  I understand.

spooky415
by Ruby Member on Jul. 21, 2013 at 6:11 PM
Yes. I have an adult cat, two young cats, and a kitten. All with excellent bills of health. Except for the kitten which is probably challenged, lol.

Quoting tifferie:

That is the thing with these shelters where you live. It is all pitt bulls. I tried and that was all we found. Don't you have cats as well?




Quoting spooky415:

I want a smaller breed because we live in an apartment. the only thing around here is pit bulls and pit bull mixes. i don't have anything against pit bulls but they're not a good fit for our family.





Quoting Redwoods_Mama:

Ugh, rescues.




 




Go to the pound.  I got a very nice, sweet little chi from ours.  He has fit in perfectly.  Chihuahuas... honestly, if they're not being screaming little jerks in a noisy pound, they're sweethearts.


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tifferie
by A$$tastic on Jul. 21, 2013 at 6:13 PM
Wow another cat and you are officially a part of the crazy cat lady club.


Quoting spooky415:

Yes. I have an adult cat, two young cats, and a kitten. All with excellent bills of health. Except for the kitten which is probably challenged, lol.



Quoting tifferie:

That is the thing with these shelters where you live. It is all pitt bulls. I tried and that was all we found. Don't you have cats as well?






Quoting spooky415:

I want a smaller breed because we live in an apartment. the only thing around here is pit bulls and pit bull mixes. i don't have anything against pit bulls but they're not a good fit for our family.







Quoting Redwoods_Mama:

Ugh, rescues.





 





Go to the pound.  I got a very nice, sweet little chi from ours.  He has fit in perfectly.  Chihuahuas... honestly, if they're not being screaming little jerks in a noisy pound, they're sweethearts.



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