When we went out he told me he often thinks about having sex with other women. I was taken back. Then he went into my weight - I'm 237lbs, 5'8. When we met I wasn't like that.
He's tried doing activities with me to help lose - like evening walks and suggestions for healthier dinners. But, I never took him seriously.
Basically, he's told me that I have to lose the weight to save our marriage. He said he's willing to pay for any services to assist - he suggested weight watchers and a gym membership but he's doesn't care. He said if I need special meals, trainers, whatever I think is best - he'll do it. He said he's willing to walk every step with me.
I'm just taken back. WTF? Who says they want to have sex with someone else? Who does that? I'm so hurt. I thought we had the perfect marriage. I guess not.
UPDATE. I can't believe how many responses this has gotten. I am @ work mobile but thought I'd add a few details.
I am a mother of four. That means my body has bounced back and forth FOUR times within the past six years. That's a LOT.
Secondly, DH is no super model either. When I met him, he was overweight - 6ft, 300lbs overweight. I am much younger than him as well.
I'm shocked at how many people feel what he said was okay. I may take him up on the help - but who knows? I might want to sleep with someone skinnier also
Oh, and its not like I've gained a trillion pounds. I weighed 170 with a very athletic build when we met.