We're not settling we just don't find it necessary to marry
My bff txted me saying 'let me know when I'll be hearing wedding bells." I txted back 'ok.' My aunt wrote me a letter and in her opinion thinks I should marry. I've been through a lot especially with my ex and his moocher family. I have a child with him as well as my current bf, 8 years apart. We're going to be together for the rest of our lives but without making it legal. I've never been married before but he has and told me a long time ago he doesn't want to marry again. And I understand. We both wanted to try again be better parents and so we had our baby last year. I had my first at 19 and so did he and we both were not excellent parents at that age. We both shared the same goals: Meet the better person for us, learn from our mistakes and plan a baby when financially and emotionally ready and be better parents. And we've done all that. We are very content with our lives and don't feel the need or desire to change anything cause nothing's broken so don't fix it. We have notorized living wills and are power of attorneys for healthcare and finances. So yes we are aware that's the only benefit unmarried couples can get, but that's the only benefit we want. Call me a free cow, call me a baby mama all you want but we're happy. I just wish my bff and aunt could understand that marriage isn't for everyone. We're not just boyfriend and girlfriend, we're life partners.