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How can I explain to my ex needing cs isn't wanting to take all his $?

Anonymous
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My ex makes substantially more than me. He wouldn't have a career if I didn't put mine on hold to support him when he got his. We are trying to settle cs but we are at a stand still. First, he thinks he shouldn't have to pay me for the next 10 years until dd graduates. Second he says if I remarry he won't pay.

How can I explain that cs isn't about me getting my nails and hair done? Every penny I receive goes to clothes food and having a larger place so she can have her own room.

If I file there will be war with my ex and also he is a great dad outside of cs issue. He also has nearly half custody.

Help me explain!
Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 24, 2013 at 9:15 AM
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SweetPea2004
by Ruby Member on Jul. 24, 2013 at 9:16 AM
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Get a lawyer and let him/her fight this.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jul. 24, 2013 at 9:16 AM

if you split 50/50 I don't see why it is necessary to for him to give you any money

MommyAddie
by Platinum Member on Jul. 24, 2013 at 9:17 AM
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Don't explain it. Let a judge explain it and he can fight with a judge. Guess who will win.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 24, 2013 at 9:18 AM
So the child can have the same standard at both homes. He makes more because for the last 10 years I supported him while he launched his career.

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if you split 50/50 I don't see why it is necessary to for him to give you any money

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 24, 2013 at 9:19 AM
Bump.
scarletmeshell
by Platinum Member on Jul. 24, 2013 at 9:19 AM
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Why would he have to pay if he has her half the time?

myempyreofdirt
by Ruby Member on Jul. 24, 2013 at 9:20 AM
Exactly what I was going to say. You don't have to explain anything.


Quoting MommyAddie:

Don't explain it. Let a judge explain it and he can fight with a judge. Guess who will win.

Barronbaby
by Brandi on Jul. 24, 2013 at 9:20 AM
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Typically 50/50 custody means no child support for anyone... Not always just typically.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jul. 24, 2013 at 9:21 AM
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Explain to him that child support is a small part of his income. It is no more than 20%, but it is based on a state formula. He will not believe you if you tell him that he will owe child support even if you are remarried. I recommend making a clause that he has to be current on child support to claim her every other year as of December 31 of the year to claim her. I recommend getting it garnished from his wages, so the state can keep track of his arrears.

katielovesyou21
by on Jul. 24, 2013 at 9:23 AM

get a lawyer go to court let the judge decide. Get it in stone. then he is legally responsible. Also if you where married and dependant you could get alimony.

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