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i dont have any reason to leave my husband

Anonymous
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We are best friends, we get along we have a baby and have been together for 12 years. He doesn't want sex anymore. (He said it, not interested) we kiss(Peck) once a day when he leaves for work and even tho we say I love you before bed there isn't passion behind it. Like saying to a sibling. So there's nothing wrong. We laugh and play and go out but after all this time its changed. We still do all of it but in the same way I feel about my best female friend.
But what if I miss someone? Or what If I do go and am not happy?

Just a vent
Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 24, 2013 at 11:07 AM
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lucky2Beeme
by Ruby Member on Jul. 24, 2013 at 11:09 AM

you need to decide if you can live out the rest of your married life as roomates.Is he willing to talk about it ? would he go for marriage counseling ?

ladyfus
by on Jul. 24, 2013 at 11:10 AM

Umm? Do you think that he is seeing someone else?

zetajen
by on Jul. 24, 2013 at 11:10 AM

I don't think you have a reason to leave your husband. you do have a reason to talk with him about your sex life. you should talk about your needs and why he isn't interested. He may have a medical condition that he needs to see a doc about.

3xangel
by *Angelicious* on Jul. 24, 2013 at 11:12 AM
This

Quoting zetajen:

I don't think you have a reason to leave your husband. you do have a reason to talk with him about your sex life. you should talk about your needs and why he isn't interested. He may have a medical condition that he needs to see a doc about.

ElitestJen
by on Jul. 24, 2013 at 11:14 AM
Being "in love" isn't a feeling. It's action. It takes work to ignite sexual drives, arousal, and passion. It doesn't sound like the two of you are putting the work in to stay "in love."
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jul. 24, 2013 at 11:15 AM
He uses the excuse that people change after having a baby and I changed more than He thought I would. After the stretch marks and nursing I'm a big turn off.


Quoting zetajen:

I don't think you have a reason to leave your husband. you do have a reason to talk with him about your sex life. you should talk about your needs and why he isn't interested. He may have a medical condition that he needs to see a doc about.


AA0214
by Member on Jul. 24, 2013 at 11:17 AM
I was with my b/f for 12 years and I could have written the same thing. I couldnt take the no romance, passion or love. I had to leave - I still miss my best friend but I couldnt be in a sexless, romanceless relationship. I was heading FAST to a deep depression! Good luck to you!
morning_glories
by on Jul. 24, 2013 at 11:17 AM
Wow, I would leave, he sounds really insensitive to your feelings and needs. If he doesn't want you someone else will.
MrsDavidB25
by Stacey on Jul. 24, 2013 at 11:19 AM

 So he won't have sex with you anymore because of your stretchmarks? What a POS. He is probably cheating. Dirtbag.

Quoting Anonymous:

He uses the excuse that people change after having a baby and I changed more than He thought I would. After the stretch marks and nursing I'm a big turn off.


Quoting zetajen:

I don't think you have a reason to leave your husband. you do have a reason to talk with him about your sex life. you should talk about your needs and why he isn't interested. He may have a medical condition that he needs to see a doc about.


 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jul. 24, 2013 at 11:24 AM

That's pretty much how my friend and her husband live. He works all the time. Like, he leaves for work at 6:00 am (every morning, including weekends) and doesn't get home until after 10:00 pm most nights. He gets every other Friday, Saturday and Sunday off. She begs him to do stuff with her (they have no children and plenty of money) but all he wants to do is sit in his man cave or mess around in his shed when he's off. They are on vacation right now until Saturday but she practically had to threaten to leave him if they didn't go somewhere. 

He has zero sex drive so he went get some Cialis (@$186 for 6 pills). He rarely takes them. She asked if he was going to take them on vacation and he told her probably not. He just plain old doesn't want to. They are both in their early 30's and have been together for 14 years, married 7. They hug and kiss good morning but other than that there is no passion anywhere. 

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