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Serious questions. May offend.

Posted by on Jul. 24, 2013 at 7:41 PM
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My soontobeex husband is in jail for having tons of child pornogrophy on his phone computet car....
1. What is the difference between a pedophile and a child molester?

2. How do you tell a seven year old their dad will no longer have any contact with them because of his actions?

3. Should I tell my parents about my soontobeex husband?
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PikachuLuver
by on Jul. 24, 2013 at 7:45 PM
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katydid150
by Gold Member on Jul. 24, 2013 at 7:50 PM

1. Pedophile equals someone sexually attracted to children acts on it.  A child molester is a pedophile who acts on it. 

2. Unfortunately can't help you there. I would suggest honesty without going into detail. 

3.  Yes, don't want them to see it on the news. 


Goid luck and so sorry 

invisibleme
by Platinum Member on Jul. 24, 2013 at 7:52 PM
Pedophile likes children in that way a child molester is a pedophile that acts on their desires.
As for your child I would tell him that his dad made choices that put him in prison because of that he won't beable to communicate with him.
Not sure about the parents it would depend if they would respect my wishes and not discuss it around my child or spread it aroubd.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Jul. 24, 2013 at 7:54 PM

I would definitely tell your parents. They need to know about him so they don't inadvertantly let him into their/the kids' lives.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jul. 24, 2013 at 7:55 PM

1. A pedophile is a person who has a sexual attraction to children. Since pedophile is more of a slang term, it does not necessarily mean the person has acted on it, just that they are sexually attracted to them. A child molester is a person who has sexually touched a child. Chances are, they are sexually attracted to children which means they are a pedophile.


2. Professional counseling is in order.


3. If you feel comfortable sharing that with them.

darcibeisheim
by Gold Member on Jul. 24, 2013 at 7:55 PM

Sadly you may not be able to stop all communication between our child and his father. In your divorce you do need to request at least supervised visits. 



vegaswife2011
by LMAO on Jul. 24, 2013 at 7:56 PM

I see no difference, a perv is a perv. Idk what I would tell a seven year old. Yes I would tell EVERYONE! I am so so sorry mama. I have been there as a child, not an adult. Big big hugs and the best of luck to both of you! 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jul. 24, 2013 at 8:01 PM
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1.  a pedophile is someone that finds children sexually attractive.  They don't necessarily act on their urges or impulses.  Not all pedophiles are child molesters, but all child molesters are pedophiles. 

2.  Tell your son that dad did something bad, and that the police needed to put him in jail to keep people safe.  you tell your son that HE is good, and he should continue to make good choices in his life.  His dad is an example of what happens when you make a bad choice.   Talk to a counselor to see if he should get assistance in processing the information or tips on how to deliver this information to him. 

3.  yes.  they need to know.  What if he shows up at their house wanting to talk to DS if he's there, and they don't know any better?  What if they see him around or near your house and fail to mention or notify the proper authorities because they are unaware of the situation?  Even if that's not a possibility, if your parents are good parents ( I am certain they are, you are going through this and concerned for your son, so I can only assume you learned your good parenting from SOMEWHERE) they'll only support you and your son through this time. 

Good luck and I hope to heck this gets fixed soon. Hugs!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jul. 24, 2013 at 8:03 PM
1. What previous posters said.
2. I would tell your child that dad made bad choices and is in jail. I wouldn't lie about that but I wouldn't tell him why or give too many details.
3. I would definitely tell your parents. Why wouldn't you?
CjEmmemommy
by on Jul. 24, 2013 at 8:03 PM

I wouldn't tell your 7 year old why yet. That is not imformation I think she can handle. Tell her he made bad choices and must be away while he gets help.

 I would tell your parents for support if they are th kind to offer it but not many other people.

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