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is there a polite way.....

Anonymous
Posted by Anonymous
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to remind my mom that she is a grandmother, not the mom? there are decisions being made about where the kids go to school because we are on a district line. she is throwing a fit and telling me im a bad parent because they arent going to the one closest to her. ugh!!!

Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 24, 2013 at 8:57 PM
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graciesnycmama
by Platinum Member on Jul. 24, 2013 at 8:59 PM
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Tell her to mind her business and remind her that you are their mother.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 24, 2013 at 9:00 PM


yeah. i just cant seem to find a nice way to do it. we are picking the other school for good reason. i should not have to explain myself.

Quoting graciesnycmama:

Tell her to mind her business and remind her that you are their mother.



WaffleHead
by on Jul. 24, 2013 at 9:01 PM
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Who says you have to be nice. She's being a dick
graciesnycmama
by Platinum Member on Jul. 24, 2013 at 9:02 PM
Well to appease her, tell her your reason then and leave it at that.

Quoting Anonymous:


yeah. i just cant seem to find a nice way to do it. we are picking the other school for good reason. i should not have to explain myself.


Quoting graciesnycmama:

Tell her to mind her business and remind her that you are their mother.




Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jul. 24, 2013 at 9:02 PM

No need to be polite. Be direct.

mamamona
by Bronze Member on Jul. 24, 2013 at 9:03 PM

Tell her you appreciate her concern and her input on some things but that you and your husband are the decision makers for your children.

Mrs.Kubalabuku
by on Jul. 24, 2013 at 9:04 PM

Polite?  Probably not.  It doesn't sound like she's getting the polite messages.  Firm and not exactly rude?  Yes.

You simply remind her that YOU are the one who has to deal with these decisions, and YOU will make them as best you can for what fits YOUR immediate family unit.

Then change the topic every time she brings it up.  If she pitches a fit, politely excuse yourself and offer to come back when she's calmed down.  She'll quickly figure out that if she goes that route it means seeing you and the kids even less.  Then, the choice is up to her if it's worth it to hold her grudge or to just move on.

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