My in laws refuse to babysit while I am in the hosptial but they think MIL should be in the delivery room
Me and DH are about to have our 3ird child. When we had our 2and child, my in laws didn't live in the area. Now that they do, we asked if they would mind taking the kids for one of the 2 nights (3 if I labor overnight) that I will be in the hospital. My mo is willing to take them the other night or nights and if she is scheduled to work, she will just call off. However, she doesn't want to plan on doing that for 3 nights in a row, just in case, which is why we asked the in laws. They said they really didn't want to commit to doing that so we said fine, we will make other plans, I have a friend who agreed to take a night if need be.
Now called MIL starts talking about the delivery room and a "calling tree" for when the baby is born to let people know when they can visit. Wait, so you wouldn't help watch YOUR GRANDKIDS for one night but you think you are going to be in the delivery room? Heck no. I told her that I was already set on who I wanted in the room (DH and my mom) and my grandparents are watching them while I am in labor. Then I told her that as far as the "calling tree" to let people know when they can visit, since this is number 3 meaning I will not get any rest at home, I am not going to be taking visitors in the hospital with the exception of whoever is watching the kids because obviously, I want to see my kids every day and I don't want them feeling left out.
She is pissed but what did she expect, she won't lift a finger to help but thought, with no reason to think so, that she was going to be in the delivery room and she feels that she has the right to be upset that I want the hospital time free of visitors? Then FIL texted DH that he woudl have divorced MIL if she ever DARED to treat his parents "that way". To which DH replied "oh shut up, no you wouldn't mom was a bitch to grandma too"
I will give my MIL this, having this kind of relationship with her has shown me what NOT to do when I am a MIL.