My son is 17 and has a 4 month old daughter. He was dating this girl and she ended up pregnant and through most of the pregnancy they were excited but he was very scared and he left her and my house. Of course he denied being the father and we had a paternity test done and he is the father. He has only seen the baby the day she was born and 2 other times.
I feel so bad for his ex. She is a really sweet girl. I sat down and had a heart to heart with her and told her that even though my son was a dead beat I would never be. I told her that me and DH loved our GD and that if she needed anything all she had to do was ask. We babysit her sometimes and even got an over night once because her mom was really sick and couldn't wake up to the baby. I wish we could spend more time with GD but we don't want to be pushy and have her distance herself. For now we will take this
I hope everyday that my son steps up! I have a hard time even talking to him because of his behavior. I thought I had raised him to be a mature and responsible young man but clearly something went wrong.
I was talking to my mom and she said something that made my blood boil, "Honey, why don't you just make him be a father?" all I could say is "Well mom, I can't make him be a father!". I can not make him go and see her. Half the time I do not even know where he is and thanks to the fucked up law system the police will do nothing to bring him back (17 is not considered a runaway. They can encourage him to come back home but cant force it and he will be 18 soon)
I try to talk to him all the time, I leave the door open for communication (even though it is hard). But he does not want to step up. Even with the paternity test he says she isn't his. He is in huge denial. I am so heartbroken every day and I can not believe I failed so much and raised a deadbeat.