I have another post on here about my friend who I helped get out of an abusive relationship.
Anyway, her and her 18 month son are now living with me. The reason I am a bad friend? I can't handle it much longer. She is driving me insane. Her son is pretty well behaved just a typical 18 month old. Into everything because he doesn't know any better. Well that really isn't a problem except my house is no longer set up for a small child. I have a 4 and half year old who is mature for her age. And even that isn't so much of a problem.... IF SHE WOULD WATCH HIM. She sits on her computer all day. I came home from work and he had made a mess all over my living room. No big deal except he had lost the batteries for my daughters horse. Batteries I can't replace for two weeks.
Even that isn't what is really bothering me. I understand you can't constantly be on top of the kid. What is bothering me is that she isn't 21 yet and she has gotten drunk every night but 1 since she has been here. I am 22 and would go to jail even though I didn't buy it because it's in my house. And then yesterday, she wanted me to give her one of my hydros so she could get HIGH!!!! Then she got pissed when I told her no.
(Just so we are all clear I got the hydros after having a particularly bad tooth extraction a few months ago. I still have half of the bottle because every now and then a tooth shard starts to surface and I can't even sleep because it hurts so bad I do not use them recreationally.)
On top of thatshe does almost nothing to help out. I know she doesn't have money and wouldn't accept it if she did. But she is here all day. I am working and going to school. She could wash the dishes, take out the trash, pick up the toys her son drug out, sweep. Or anything. And she has offered like 3 times but that's it. Other than that I am now supporting 2x as many people, cleaning up after 2x as many people, and cooking for 2x as many people.
She also has not filled out let alone turned in a single application yet. NOT A SINGLE ONE! I will get evicted if she is here more than a month and its already been almost 2 weeks. She has said several times since she's been here she doesn't want to work. She would rather stay home. A few times she said "But I will work, I just don't want to"
I feel horrible but I really can't stand her living here anymore. I don't know what we are going to do when the 1 month mark gets here, I can't just kick her out with no where to go but I have done what I can for her. I even put her in for an apartment here. But it could be a while because there is a wait list.
Am I as bad of a friend as I feel for wanting her out?