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MIL wants to invite 10 extra people to DD's birthday update/ UPDATE ON THE PARTY

Anonymous
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Actually, she technically already has. FIL's cousin moved to town recently with his wife, their 5 kids and his SIL (wife's sister) and her 2 kids. I have never met or even heard of these people, DH has never met any of these people, yet without even asking, MIL invited ALL 10 OF THEM to DD's birthday party at Chuck E Cheese (please no bashing that it is a Chuck e Cheese party, I am 35 weeks pregnant and I didn't want to deal with setting up and cleaning up after the party, plus her friend had her's there last year and she really wanted it.)

Between family and some close friends, we invited about 40 adults and 15 kids of which 34  adults and 12 kids are coming. The kids are about $20, which was fine because I knew there would be no more then 15 kids. For the adults, I pay paying for 1 drink (refillable) and 3 pieces of pizza (they are TINY at chuck e cheese). Just these additional people are going to cost me over $160, and I didn't even invite them. And I am not trying to say the party itself is too expensive, we planned for this party and we budgeted for it, we didn't plan on an extra 10 people including 7 extra kids. Not to mention I have already gone and bout the stuff for the goodie bags and put everything together so not only would I incur the extra cost but I would have to go buy more stuff for the goodie bags.

What gets me is MIL just called all casual and left the voicemail "oh BTW uncle ____ and his family moved into town so I invited them, that 3 adults and 7 kids" like it was no big deal. I told DH what his mother said and at first he was annoyed but didn't see the big deal, then I showed him how much more money it would be and he saw the big deal. He called her and told her that since she invited them, she can either pay the $175 or so it will be for the kids, adults, and for me to buy more stuff for the goodie bags for those kids or she can uninvite them. She started yelling at him saying how dare he be so disrespectful to her and that he knows they don't have that kind of money but how is she supposed to uninvite them. He told her she should have thought about that before inviting people to a party she isn't throwing. She hung up on them.

At this point, I am 99% sure she won't uninvite them and I am 99% sure she isn't going to pay for them.

I called Chuch e cheese and they were able to change the time, so that was a lucky and wonderful suggestion, thanks, T1gger143. I sent out a facebook message to everyone except MIL and FIL, no one else from the party talks to them. Anyway, by the time they get there for the 1 pm party, the party that now starts at 11 will be just about over.

UPDATE

So the party went really well. Everyone had a great time. MIL and the uninvited guests showed up just before 1. At that point, we were just about to sing Happy Birthday and have cake so they were there for that. I saved the kids some tokens so we stayed and played longer. I explained that I didn't know they were coming . It worked out well because they weren't stuck paying for themselves and the kids but the kids still got to play and have cake and we didn't have to pay extra. MIL was PISSED but oh well.

Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 28, 2013 at 4:08 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jul. 28, 2013 at 4:10 PM

BUMP!

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jul. 28, 2013 at 4:10 PM

BUMP!

momma4vr
by Gold Member on Jul. 28, 2013 at 4:12 PM
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idk what i would do honestly since you never invited them. maybe get the goodie bags for the kids if you can do it but dont pay for the pizza/drinks/tokens... they can pay for themselves/kids or mil can do it and bitchlater

Syphon
by on Jul. 28, 2013 at 4:12 PM

 Simply tell he that she need to tell them that she made a mistake and they cannot come because you cannot afford the additional people.

t1gger143
by Platinum Member on Jul. 28, 2013 at 4:12 PM
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Change the time and don't tell her.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jul. 28, 2013 at 4:13 PM
When they get there apologize & say I'm sorry but I don't have enough room for the kids, I wasn't expecting them.
Snakecharm
by Platinum Member on Jul. 28, 2013 at 4:14 PM
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You may wind up paying for them. At Christmas, when her gift is a kid drawn card you can let her know her present got spent at chuck e cheese.
thefiregoddess
by MotherDucker on Jul. 28, 2013 at 4:14 PM

If they show.. tell the people at chuck e cheese you have no idea who they are.

technically you dont...

1plustwinsmommy
by Platinum Member on Jul. 28, 2013 at 4:14 PM
That's awful. My mil would do the same and then bash my name to every family member that would listen, making herself somehow the victim.
Is there a different Chuck E Cheese? If so, go to a different one and don't tell her.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jul. 28, 2013 at 4:15 PM

That's not a bad idea, I just looked it up at they are available at 11. This party is at 1 but since it is a Saturday, I'll bet most people wouldn't mind the time change



Quoting t1gger143:

Change the time and don't tell her.



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