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MIL wants to invite 10 extra people to DD's birthday update/ UPDATE ON THE PARTY

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Actually, she technically already has. FIL's cousin moved to town recently with his wife, their 5 kids and his SIL (wife's sister) and her 2 kids. I have never met or even heard of these people, DH has never met any of these people, yet without even asking, MIL invited ALL 10 OF THEM to DD's birthday party at Chuck E Cheese (please no bashing that it is a Chuck e Cheese party, I am 35 weeks pregnant and I didn't want to deal with setting up and cleaning up after the party, plus her friend had her's there last year and she really wanted it.)

Between family and some close friends, we invited about 40 adults and 15 kids of which 34  adults and 12 kids are coming. The kids are about $20, which was fine because I knew there would be no more then 15 kids. For the adults, I pay paying for 1 drink (refillable) and 3 pieces of pizza (they are TINY at chuck e cheese). Just these additional people are going to cost me over $160, and I didn't even invite them. And I am not trying to say the party itself is too expensive, we planned for this party and we budgeted for it, we didn't plan on an extra 10 people including 7 extra kids. Not to mention I have already gone and bout the stuff for the goodie bags and put everything together so not only would I incur the extra cost but I would have to go buy more stuff for the goodie bags.

What gets me is MIL just called all casual and left the voicemail "oh BTW uncle ____ and his family moved into town so I invited them, that 3 adults and 7 kids" like it was no big deal. I told DH what his mother said and at first he was annoyed but didn't see the big deal, then I showed him how much more money it would be and he saw the big deal. He called her and told her that since she invited them, she can either pay the $175 or so it will be for the kids, adults, and for me to buy more stuff for the goodie bags for those kids or she can uninvite them. She started yelling at him saying how dare he be so disrespectful to her and that he knows they don't have that kind of money but how is she supposed to uninvite them. He told her she should have thought about that before inviting people to a party she isn't throwing. She hung up on them.

At this point, I am 99% sure she won't uninvite them and I am 99% sure she isn't going to pay for them.

I called Chuch e cheese and they were able to change the time, so that was a lucky and wonderful suggestion, thanks, T1gger143. I sent out a facebook message to everyone except MIL and FIL, no one else from the party talks to them. Anyway, by the time they get there for the 1 pm party, the party that now starts at 11 will be just about over.


So the party went really well. Everyone had a great time. MIL and the uninvited guests showed up just before 1. At that point, we were just about to sing Happy Birthday and have cake so they were there for that. I saved the kids some tokens so we stayed and played longer. I explained that I didn't know they were coming . It worked out well because they weren't stuck paying for themselves and the kids but the kids still got to play and have cake and we didn't have to pay extra. MIL was PISSED but oh well.

Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 28, 2013 at 4:08 PM
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by on Aug. 5, 2013 at 3:23 PM

I want to know what happened at the party.  What was the mil and fil reaction?  This oughta be good!

by Sapphire Member on Aug. 5, 2013 at 3:24 PM
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by on Aug. 5, 2013 at 3:28 PM
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by Anonymous 26 on Aug. 5, 2013 at 3:30 PM

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by Ruby Member on Aug. 5, 2013 at 3:32 PM


by Anonymous 27 on Aug. 5, 2013 at 4:03 PM

LOL I would've told the 'extra' guest that Sorry but mil NEVER told you they were coming so you had nothing for them including money for food or party bags but changing the time is good too. I probably would've done something for the kids but the adults knew better. I was sent along to a party at Chuck E Cheese to help but my almost mil at the time warned me ahead of time about expecting food. A young girl and her bf were trying to throw a party themselves with not much money (not sure why they picked there I forgot) and I didn't mind not eating. I went in place of mil because my almost sd was a cousing of b-day kid and mil got called into work. Baby's grandpa saw how little they were able to afford and bought more than enough pizzas and stuff for everyone which was good because the bf's mom was SELF ENTITLED and OMG she was a ME ME ME. You know how they stamp your hand so kids don't go out with the wrong people. She never bothered waiting for a stamp and then tried walking out with the birthday and caused a big stink because they refused. I finally rushed over from down the line and told them they were both with me and she was the grandma. She was holding up the line and mom and dad just let her do what she wanted. Probably to avoid a scene but don't you think she'd want her grandson to be safe?

by on Aug. 5, 2013 at 4:04 PM
I wanna know what happened! :-)
by Silver Member on Aug. 5, 2013 at 4:09 PM
How did it go
by Anonymous 28 on Oct. 3, 2013 at 12:04 PM

 Party Update:

Funny. She shouldn't be upset. She is the onethat was rude in the first place inviting people that you didn't know where coming. Maybe she learned her lesson.

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