Problem I am having is, the mom we will call her T, has a bad history. She cant hold a job. Can't stay out of trouble, and she often resorts to pills and weed when depressed which is quite often. She also has an eating disorder.
My god son will be 2 next month btw. T is 23.
So anyway T got caught with her baby daddy when he was shop lifting. She had no idea, so she says, cause she.paid for her stuff. Anyway that was right around the time she got pregnant with god son. She ended up with a 1000 dollar fine for it. She now has a warrant because it hasn't been paid yet, last month she acquired a dui.
She has court for that coming up in a few weeks.
Anyway after the shop lifting trouble she moved to Texas with her parents. She recently moved back when the baby was about 15 months old. She lived with me and my mom (alternative) for a few months. She met up with a guy online and they had started a long distance relationship while he was overseas with the army. Anyway easter comes up and she goes back to Texas a month to be with family before the boyfriend comes home. She comes back, they are staying together for 2 months. Finally she has her dad bring the baby up 4 days ago.
And her bf picks the next day to tell her you don't have a job, your not helping me, your not helping yourself or your son. I love you and wanna make it work but it's just 2 much on me alone and you need to move out till you prove yourself to me.
So of course she is back with me. She is lazy, a slob, she has taken over my dd bedroom and now dd 4 is sleeping is ds 6 twin bed with him. They both hate that. Hate it!
We have strict rules since the house.gets sugar ants so badly that there is no food or drink allowed in the bedrooms. Well T has broken the rules plenty of times so far, she has everything she owns (clothes) sitting in huge piles in our school room. She doesn't shut doors (we have a dog) nd she doesnt turn off lights.
We have so much we are saving up for right now money is insanely tight on us! We can't afford to provide for her and god son at this time. My neighbor bought him diapers yesterday thank god. I am also 6 months pregnant and I'm so stressed out.
I found a baby turd on top of dd tv stand in her room btw..... How the hell it got up there I have no idea but apparently my god son had a stuffed animal he threw up there and knocked everything over (pic frames and a porcelain tea pot and a basket with a porcelain doll in it) there was even juice from a cup of ramen noodles spilled all over the top of dd desk.... She still hasn't cleaned it up. Ugh
Ok rant over. If you made it this far thank ya for reading. Now a question.
She needs a job before the bf will take her back. She needs to get out of my house so I can restore order. I need to set up a time line for her. But don't know what's a reasonable time line.