First the facts
My Dh's brother and sister in law had 5 children
She has had 8 pregnancies in the last 8 years
In the past 3 3/4 years she has had two full term pregnancies and two miscarriages.
During her last live birth (1 year ago in April) she had an emergency c-section, the placenta detached too early and she hemorrhaged badly.
She just had her 3rd miscarriage at 21 weeks Again she hemorrhaged, had to have a DnC (D&C?)
She suspects that her almost 4 year old has some kind of sensory disorder. From the outside it is blatantly obvious that he has a sensory disorder but she has not taken him to be evaluated.
With this last pregnancy she made a huge post on Facebook about how she takes good care of her kids, they have all they need ect. It got so many like and comments from people who are NOT her family. Who WILL NOT have to care for or console her 5 children if she dies Who's child will not be going with out if it's born with a disability.
- They are on PA, they have no healthcare & my DH Step Dad has cut them off financially at this point.
My FIL and MIL are a Doctor and a L&D nurse. They have both talked to them about how dangerous this is. Because they have at this point cut them off financially she's extremely mad at them (they don't 'like' her.)
I know my MIL. She LOVES her and she LOVES those kids. She wouldn't give one of them back if she could. FIL is even more ridiculously in love with the kids.
She likes validation and I see all these people (who don't know about the full health issues) encouraging her to try again and ignore the "haters." It's not like that at all. The people telling her to stop are the people who love her the most. MIL thinks that I should talk to her bc we are the same age and we're somewhat close. Idk. I really care about her and I want to say "Have another baby if you really want one but give your body a year. Get in shape, take prenatal vitamins do it right." But I don't know how she'll take it...