But out of all my groups this was the most appropriate one. Im gonna make this short as i can cause i know u all prob dont wanna read a book.. me and hubby been married 3 yrs have 2 kids they r 7 and 2 (oldest was from previous marriage but his dad isn't in his life. another story. but just sayin he is with us all the time and calls my hubby daddy). we have been renting the whole time. i am 27 he is 23. we made decent money. he just got a new job making a good bit more. we are ready for our first home. we rent an old trailer from my grandparents. well over a yr ago we started lookin. we were stupid didnt know anything and i got over excited insisted on gettin first house we looked at. my dh said he wanted it too but him mom was totally against it and not nice about it. we were days from closing and he decides he wants to back out. i was devastated and angry cause i felt his mom had gotten to him. i agreed to sit with her and have her explain her reasons (too small, only one bathroom, etc. and she showed me other homes for same price that were better). i realized she was right. so we got out of it. i wanted a break from house huntin cause as u all know it's stressful and a hassle. well, a yr later we have enuff money saved up for good down payment. i have been educated on house hunting and we start looking again. after a few months we find the one we want it fits everything we want. except its not in the school district we'd prefer BUT our kids go to private school so it's not that big of an issue to us. we would have liked one in better district just in case one day we couldnt afford private. but had agreed that would not stop us from gettina house we both wanted.. ok so no prob right.. wrong. we knew his mom would be upset so i told him go ahead give her a heads up so she isn't shocked when she finds we are makin an offer. well, she went ballistic. she never text me tho so today i text her just said i love u and i am sorry u are unhappy with our choice but we both feel its right for us. well, then i got it.. she text me like a book saying all these things she doesn't like bout our choices we have made things that are opinions but she insists they are facts. she said she knows my dh doesn't agree with me on any of these choices and is just givin me my way cause he doesnt wanna fight.. i politely said i didnt think so. but i'd talk to him and make sure.. cause i'd never go against my hsuband. obviously i wouldnt because we backed out of buyin the last house bc he didnt want to ! i could go on and on bout the things she said.very hurtful things.. she ended it with "if u don't take my advice and back out then at least i know where i stand with u. and when u come over dont pretend u love or respect me cause if u dont listen to me,then idon't." she also told me that i was makin her son make bad life choices..
I was (and still am kidna) so excited about making an offer on this house. i can just see our kids growin up there and makin it our home. but obviously if she doesn't get her way she is gonna make my life hell. or try to..and my dh is a mamas boy. she has her ways of making him sway.so im afraid he will back out cause she will get to him..i am just sad. any advice?