Ok I'm coming out to the cafemom confession page. Yes I know I'm going to get eaten alive. But if I can make just one more parents journey better i have to do it. It's a hard journey that has been filled with tears, and sadness. I just want to save one more parent from the pain I'm facing. I never once wanted this. I never wished this on my child. This is not a road I want my child to go down but we are here. And I will be beside my child as long as he wants me.
Bex started with wearing boys undies at potty training. Liking super heros. Bex always played hard with the boys...
then Bex started wearing all boys clothes. Then asking me during bath time to call Bex my prince not a princess... Then Bex in one of our baths together asked me if Bex could be my son... I was shocked and said but your a girl.. Bex kept asking. Then the asking for a penis started... Then September last year Bex asked to get a short haircut. Then after Christmas the week after I found a cupon for a cheep cut. I'm a hairstylist but did not want to do it in case Bex hated it.... Bex loved it.
At kindergarten shots our doc mentioned that Bex might be trans. He had a talkwith bex where bex told the doctor that he is a boy. that he wants a penis. that he is not a girl and goes bybex. I knew already. But my DH was not reddy. Then we got a referral to a ped, she noticed Bex was trans right away, the ped asked Bex simallar questions the GP did and he answered the same way. We got blood work to check for chromosome disorders...
I have a female to male trans 5 year old child. Daycare is not accepting ans we are starting kindy in a month. The head teacher is catholic and its just not working. Thursday a boy called Bex a girl. Bex then choked the kid We spent all Friday in the ER. We have referral to the trans clinic and infant psych. I fel like my child is broken. I feel so hurt. I want my child whole. Bex will only be attending Monday we'd Friday at school. I can't afford to pull him out as we get subsidy and they cover full cost. I can't afford to pay the full month if Bex is not attending. Nor can I take that much time from taking care of my mom (who is dying) I'm sorry I just need to vent.
I also blog at www.mytransgenderedchild.blogspot.com
here is an email I just recieved from the teacher
bex being transgendered has nothing to do with his future sexuality. Bex can chose whatever sexual preference when he is older.
Transgendered is a term for gender dismophic disorder. We are on a wait list to see more specialists in the field.
Where I live paediatric doctors are specialist. You see a family doctor for everything.
Bex was seen at our local children's hospital where they said he is the most self assure child and that I'm doing everything right. Pushing Bex to wear girl clothes and be called she will cause more mental health problems. Bex admitted to the doctor that he self absues after people call him she and a girl.
Now Bex and I are going out for a fun day! Off to the book store and lunch out. Then off to the spray park.