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Overcoming jealousy in a marriage

Anonymous
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Question: Could watching a porno help a woman feel less insecure in her relationship?

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Say you have moments of insecurity but you are really trying to work on it. Like when you are at a party and your husband is being very friendly with a beautiful woman. He's a nice guy, it isn't anything out of the ordinary but it instantly changes your mood because you feel inadequate. You know you shouldn't feel this way but you can't help it. Would watching a porno with your husband help you feel more secure in your relationship? Are there other ways you have learned to put an end to your moments of jealousy? Feel free to post anon if you don't want others to know that you struggled with insecurity and jealousy issues. I really need help. Thank you.

Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 30, 2013 at 3:20 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 30, 2013 at 3:20 PM

BUMP!

LilliesValley
by on Jul. 30, 2013 at 3:22 PM

I don't ever think the answer to relationship problems is found by going outside of the relationship.

So like in your example, the answer to me is that the woman would need to talk and be open about her feelings with her dh so that maybe if he's aware he will curb his behavior. There could be other things she could do too, but having a conversation with your partner about problems is the key.

Mittenmommie
by Silver Member on Jul. 30, 2013 at 3:23 PM
I say no. I mean most porn stars have huge fake boobs and not an ounce of flab on them.. I'm more insecure about the fact that I'm a small framed person and being 120 pounds I don't have many curves.. I beg for boobie implants.. Lol
Leissaintexas
by Ruby Member on Jul. 30, 2013 at 3:23 PM

That doesn't sound like a good way to overcome insecurity to me. In fact, that just seems the opposite of helpful. Personally, I believe there is no benefit to porn whatsoever. It causes nothing but harm, and is the root of so many marital issues.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jul. 30, 2013 at 3:23 PM

Not insecure when it comes to my husband.  We watch porn because we both enjoy it and it gets us turned on, not because of insecurity issues.  Here's a bump for you though

AnastasiaKorsh
by on Jul. 30, 2013 at 3:31 PM
I don't know how a porn would lift anyone's self esteem.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jul. 30, 2013 at 3:32 PM

I don't know. It depends. It wouldn't work for me but, I don't like porn. It's boring to me. I'm very insecure, I would think it would have the opposite effect. I hate knowing when DF thinks another woman is hot. Not because I don't expect him to notice a hot woman...of course he's going to. It just makes me feel more inadequate. I point out to myself the ways that I don't look like her. I don't see how watching porn with him would help with that...if anything I'd have more to try to measure up to. It's not his fault, it's my insecurity.

I don't care if he watches it. I just don't want to watch it with him and I don't need to know about it when he does.

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