Okay first I am not judging. I just have a question because I only know one person with down syndrome (not sure if thats how it is spelled). Anyway my 18 year old cousin male has downs and he has 5 siblings. My aunt wipes his butt and washes him in the shower. He can not make his own food at all not even a sandwich. Is this normal? Is it okay? I just worry about him when they are gone. I dont want to talk about it with my aun because I dont want to hurt her feelings and I dont want her to think anything negative because she takes care of him and I know she lives him. I just am wondering if an yone else knows anyone with downs and when do they become I dependent?