My daughter doesn't want me to be happy, or to share me...
I love my dd VERY much, and she has always come first. I have only dated 2 men since she was born. The first man I dated for a year. She didn't like him and I had no clue why. She wouldn't say, she just was a TERROR whenever he was around. She was never alone with him. He was always nice to her. But he couldn't take her bahaviors and her being mean and nasty to him so he said he couldn't continue the relationship with me.
A year later I started dating the man I'm with now. Shortly after dd had met him, she started acting the same way as before. Mean and nasty, ignoring him, tantrums, and overall HORRIBLE behaviors. It just keeps getting worse. Again, she's never been alone with him, and he's not mean to her or anything. Dd is ALWAYS with us, she is never left out and we take her to do things. But when we do, it always ends with us having to leave early because she is just behaving so awful.
Today my bf asked her to please pick up her toy cars she had been playing with earlier before she brought out a different toy to play with. She FREAKED out on him. She started throwing her stuffed animals at him. He kept asking her why she treats him this way. She kept saying "idk". I put her in time out. I had my boyfriend go home so I could have a serious talk with dd.
She finally tells me that she doesn't like my bf. I asked her why and she said that he really didn't do anything, she just doesn't want me to have a bf. Ever. She said she NEVER wants me to EVER get married, and she NEVER wants me to EVER have another baby. She doesn't want a brother or a sister. She said she always just wants it to be her and I. I have never left her, I always have given her attention and I am her sole provider and only parent.
But honestly I am so sad she feels this way because my dream has always been to get married, and give dd a father figure and a sibling someday. I'm almost 28 years old. I'm not getting any younger. I don't want to be alone. Lets face it, when she becomes a teenager she will be out and about involved in sports, school stuff, and with friends. Then when she's 18 shell go off to college. Ill be alone. Also, I can't just let her control my life like she seems to think she can.
What can I do to make us BOTH happy?!