My child refused to eat a dinner that he usually likes. Never has an issue with it. Not one of his favorites but he's never complained. Tonight he said he wasn't hungry and he didn't want that for dinner and he wasn't going to eat it for dinner. He had 45 minutes before bed to eat it. He choose not to after countless warnings that he would be put to bed hungry if he didn't eat. He choose not to eat.
So at 7 he was put to bed. At 7:30 he cried. DH went in and tried to talk to him DS wouldn't speak. At 8 he did it again and I told him that if he wasn't going to speak to us or say anything or answer any questions we weren't going to go back in there. At 8:20 he started back up again. DH got his panties all in a twist because "Kids shouldn't go to bed hungry and its cruel not to go in there even if he's being a brat" I disagree. He was warned he choose not to eat then he was warned about not speaking and using his words and choose not to speak. I'm tired of DH babying our kid all the time! He gets away with murder all the time because DH thinks I'm being mean because I give DS 2 chances and follow through on the 3rd with punishments. DH thinks that a 7 year old can't respond to that. I think thats bullshit and I'm sick of DH and DS behaviors! I'm tired of being the bad guy all the time because I want to be able to follow through and not have a kid who's a huge brat all the time!
DH ended up going in there after him and I fought for 5 minutes about how he's babying our kid and I'm being mean. Brought his dinner and let him eat and he never had to say a word or answer any questions about why he was crying or what he wanted. (DS doesn't use his words when he's perfectly capable to do so and it pisses me off not to mention how every person outside of us has to deal with because he stone walls when he doesn't want to answer someone)
WTF am I wrong? Am I a huge meanie? Or is my husband babying our kid and turning him into an entitled till brat that will use tantrums to get what he wants? Where do you sit on the fence? What would you have done?