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Funerals for a fetus

Anonymous
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Is it normal to have a funeral for a baby that dies during pregnancy?

How far pregnant would you have to be to consider a funeral acceptable?

15 weeks?
20?
30+?

I'm a bit morbid tonight. And its just kind of something I have been wondering about.
Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 31, 2013 at 12:56 AM
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IFartGlitter
by on Jul. 31, 2013 at 12:57 AM

Past the age of viability, I think so. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 31, 2013 at 12:59 AM
Like 34-36 weeks?

Quoting IFartGlitter:

Past the age of viability, I think so. 

IFartGlitter
by on Jul. 31, 2013 at 1:00 AM
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Viability is 24 weeks. If you have a baby at 24 weeks, it's a stillbirth, not a miscarriage. Thus I think if the mother feels she needs a funeral, the baby deserves a funeral. 


Quoting Anonymous:

Like 34-36 weeks?

Quoting IFartGlitter:

Past the age of viability, I think so. 



thetrollcat
by on Jul. 31, 2013 at 1:01 AM
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I do not have funerals for miscarriages. I would not attend one either.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jul. 31, 2013 at 1:01 AM
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If I lost a BABY and it was big enough to bury I would absolutely have a funeral for it! It was my child whether it was born alive or not. This disconnect women have with their unborn babies (sometimes not all the time) is astonishing. Calling it a "Fetus" does not make it any less a baby. So as long as a funeral home would do it (I think I have heard that some funeral homes have a minimum gestation the baby had to be at in order to get a funeral) I would do it. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jul. 31, 2013 at 1:02 AM
Rawr

Quoting thetrollcat:

I do not have funerals for miscarriages. I would not attend one either.

SalemWitchChild
by Blessed be on Jul. 31, 2013 at 1:02 AM
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I had a m/c at 9 weeks. We didn't have a funeral. But I said a little goodbye personally.

I don't think there is any set age. Just depends on what the parents want.

Dzyre1115
by Desiree` on Jul. 31, 2013 at 1:02 AM
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 Grief is a personal thing and whatever a person has to do to get through it is just fine, if that's a funeral for a fetus, no matter how far along, then so be it.

ruth85
by on Jul. 31, 2013 at 1:02 AM
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I think that since funerals are really more for the living to deal with the death..... what ever the parents want is ok.  If it helps them deal with the loss and makes them feel better, who am I to say what they should and shouldnt do?

SageAdvice
by on Jul. 31, 2013 at 1:02 AM
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 People should be allowed to mourn as they need to. If they need a funeral for a 5 week old blood clot that is their right. They should do what ever they need to to say good bye, and move towards healing and acceptance.

 Do not judge any one's way of mourning. One should try to be gracious and supportive of their love and sadness of the loss of that being. 

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