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I won't let my ex see my kids

Anonymous
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We separated 9 years ago and I still hold a grudge against him because our relationship ended badly.

He never hurt the kids, never hurt me, never cheated, and was a decent provider. I just hate him because he wouldn't do things that I asked him to do. I would lash out and he would leave. I got back at him once for letting another man move in with me on his family's property. He said that was the last straw and threw me out on my ass and kept the kids away from me for a month until I got us a new place.

Ever since then I've hated him. I moved 5 hours away and I've taken him to court trying to get his parental rights terminated so my husband of 4 years can adopt them (I got my tubes tied and now my husband wants his own but will settle if he can adopt mine) but my ex wont give in.

I don't know what else to do to make him leave us alone so we can be a happy family. The kids are 11 and 12. My oldest wants to live with my ex, but my youngest loves my current husband more than her real father. I don't know what else to do to keep my oldest from going to live with her dad.

On top of all that I hate him because he asked his girlfriend of 2 years to marry him and got her a nice ring and everything. She seems OK, but we were together for 6 years and he never got Mr a ring or asked me to marry him. I hate him for that.
Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 31, 2013 at 5:02 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jul. 31, 2013 at 5:03 AM
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Is this post for real?

You sound unstable.
justpeachy71904
by peachy on Jul. 31, 2013 at 5:04 AM
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So what are your grounds for termination?

You know the judge will require what is best for the kids right?
jadedcynic
by Nerdalicious on Jul. 31, 2013 at 5:07 AM

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RigPrincess85
by Silver Member on Jul. 31, 2013 at 5:08 AM
This can't be real....?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 31, 2013 at 5:08 AM
That he lives 4 hours away and doesn't stick with visitation every weekend.

It was my husband's idea. We moved 2 years ago because we knew he wouldn't be able to stick with visitation if we did. It backfired though. The judge lowered his child support. I don't know what else to do.

Quoting justpeachy71904:

So what are your grounds for termination?



You know the judge will require what is best for the kids right?
tinhouse544
by on Jul. 31, 2013 at 5:10 AM
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well if you're not a troll, then grow the fuck up. it's not about you and your feelings. it's about your children. if one of them wants to see him, you have no RIGHT to keep that child from their father. in my opinion, HE should be taking YOU to court...

justpeachy71904
by peachy on Jul. 31, 2013 at 5:12 AM
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Having just gone through this. Most states have legal requirements just FYI. And after that it is up yo the judge even once they are met.

In GA it is 1 yr of no contact, 1 yr of no financial support

Then she still made me marry my husband and made him adopt my dd.

So be prepared. It isn't a joke. Oh and hey. It wasn't just 1 yr of no contact and no support, we had 7 1/2 of both ;-) and the judge refused until I was married and adoption was signed and ready to be filed.

It is not easy and it is serious shit to take away a parents rights.

Grow up and make sure you are doing it for the right reasons , not being selfish


Quoting Anonymous:

That he lives 4 hours away and doesn't stick with visitation every weekend.



It was my husband's idea. We moved 2 years ago because we knew he wouldn't be able to stick with visitation if we did. It backfired though. The judge lowered his child support. I don't know what else to do.



Quoting justpeachy71904:

So what are your grounds for termination?





You know the judge will require what is best for the kids right?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 31, 2013 at 5:12 AM
I wish people would stop saying that.

My ex is trying to say I'm unstable because this is my third marriage and my last husband before this one was into kiddie porn. I didn't know he was into that until I found it on his computer! I turned him in when I found it but I guess that wasn't good enough. He still says I'm crazy.

He says he's more stable just because I move around a lot. That has nothing to do with stability.

Quoting Anonymous:

Is this post for real?



You sound unstable.
haunted.mommy
by on Jul. 31, 2013 at 5:13 AM
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I think you are a selfish bitch and are using your children to punish him.  It is going to backfire on you.  One day your kids are going to find out that you and your now DH are the ones who kept him away.  You are sad.

sweetgrlangel
by Silver Member on Jul. 31, 2013 at 5:14 AM
Your a real peach, aren't ya!
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